Five Years Ago Today

[HaWho]

So happy things are progressing in such a sweet way!

I think meeting someone through work can be wonderful if it's handled properly. I think it's a really good sign that she is taking things slow, as frustrating as that can be. If it doesn't work out for either of you, you'll have to see each other at work. Her tempo shows maturity and probably an understanding of the possible intertwinings. I knew lots of people who became involved with seemingly normal people who then became tumultuous within the workplace. When things fell apart, it was a nightmare for them and for the coworkers.

So, it's also wise for you, career-wise, to take it slow to make sure she truly is even keeled. As things progress, much further along, it's probably advisable to have a conversation about making sure this doesn't impact your lives in the workplace, whatever the outcome.

Enjoy the process!

[tadpole1025]

Thanks everyone.

She sent a text today telling me that she is looking forward to "next time." I think the big issue for her is trust. It took a while, but I think that maybe she is finally starting to trust me. (She's been hurt before so I can't blame her for that.)

After thinking about it and reading all of the responses here, I'm just going to lay low and not rush anything. I'm just going to see where it goes and let it go at her pace. No rushing.

Tad

[bttrfly]

Excellent strategy. What you've been doing is working, so why fix what isn't broken? xoxo

[Delboy]

Hi Tad, Good to see you're getting on well with your lady friend.
I would let her make the first move etc.

Could you tell me what do you see in her eyes, is there a love light glowing within them? Cause you don't want it to turn out like the following, Right?


Hard Lesson to Learn. Performed By Rod Stewart
Written by: Bernie Taupin, James Triplett, Peter Blachley.

I drifted into the notion
That you were looking for me
I told myself that devotion
Would flow from your heart to me

When I looked into your eyes
Still no reflection did I see
Of love light glowing within there
That I hoped there would be

And it's a hard lesson to learn my friend
A hard lesson to learn
Sometimes you’re gonna get what you want
'times you’re gonna get burned

I took a chance on emotion
Washing my heart out to sea
A single wave on the ocean
You feel so distant from me

And there's a shadow dark upon your smile
A sadness living in your eyes
Storm clouds rolling in an out of doubt
Guess I’ve been living a lie

And it's a hard lesson to learn my friend
A hard lesson to learn
Sometimes you’re gonna get what you want
Sometimes you’re gonna get burned
Sometimes you’re gonna get what you want
Sometimes you’re gonna get burned

And it's a hard lesson to learn my friends
A hard lesson to learn
Sometimes you’re gonna get what you want
Sometimes you’re gonna get burned

I drifted into the notion
That you were looking for me
I told myself that devotion
Would flow from your heart to me

But when I looked into your beautiful eyes
Still no reflection did I see
Of love light glowing within there
That I kinda hoped there would be

And it's a hard lesson to learn my friend
A hard lesson to learn
Sometimes you’re gonna get what you want
Sometimes you’re gonna get burned
Sometimes you’re gonna get what you want
Sometimes you’re gonna get burned
Sometimes you’re gonna get what you want
Sometimes you’re gonna get burned
Sometimes you’re gonna get what you want
Sometimes you’re gonna get burned

Yeah, yeah, yeah
Yeah, yeah
Ooooh

Sometimes you’re gonna get what you want
Sometimes you’re gonna get burned



Love

Delboy

[tadpole1025]

Thanks bttrfly and Delboy.

Could you tell me what do you see in her eyes, is there a love light glowing within them?

Hmmm....I wouldn't call it a "love light" but she does light up when she sees me. I have no problem making her smile or laugh. I'm going to take everything slow and not rush anything. It's in her hands. Like I said, she has been hurt before so I don't really blame her for being a little hesitant. I do believe though that I am earning her trust.

This week is the week of our "date/non date." We haven't decided if we are going to the festival on Friday or Saturday yet. After that, we are going to dinner. (Her suggestion.) I won't lie, I'm a little nervous. I haven't been "out" with a lady in years. Really, since my 25th wedding anniversary. Ok, I'm very nervous. I hope everything goes well and she has a good time. I'll post an update and let everyone know how it goes.

Pointers? I could use them.

Tad

[job]

Tad,

Just be yourself and keep your expectations at zero. The most important thing is to relax and enjoy yourself.

[Wonka]

Hey Tad,

I am so so pleased to read of your progress. What a wonderful surprise!

Slow and steady.

Easy does it.

Let it unfold naturally.

Do not force things.

Oh and add a dash of cologne this Friday!

[exquisitetobe]

Be yourself.. be the man she likes.. for me, the simplest, smallest form of attention is best.. opening her door, pulling her chair, letting her order first.. gentleman stuff..

Oh, most important, let her know how much you appreciate the evening you shared IN HER COMPANIE !!! Good luck Tad !!

[bttrfly]

Here is your checklist
1. woodsy cologne (not too much, but just the "right" amount)

2. expectation level = 0

3. breathe on a regular basis; not hyperventilating or channeling the Dennis Hopper character in Blue Velvet

4. Let her take the lead, as you have been.

5. Be yourself.

6. Remember to Have FUN!!!

xoxoxoxo Good luck we are all rooting for you!

[Sotto]

Yes, I would just see it as a casual dinner with a friend and don't overwork it. If you fret about it too much, you are having expectations. So, just dial back and enjoy that couple of hours for what it is - a chance to spend some QT with someone you like...

If you truly are happy for this to unfold in it's own way, you needn't get anxious about one outing...

Hope you have a nice time xx