interesting 2tours. Like i said, i have no idea H's IC's plan, it all came from him, who knows what really transpired or why. I'm at a month NC now. So, we can surely discuss...
me 42 H 32 T 7yr M 6yr BD 5/2016 ILYBNILWY Separated 7/2016
Well WS is here packing up her things...she seems happy, singing and enjoying herself. I think its all a BS cover...believe nothing you see and half of what you hear....
I am staying out of the way, being courteous, helping here and there with a heavy box, etc. LRT!!
I know that I won't see her again until 2017, so I am using my best skills today and will be off to my own in about an hour or so.
This isn't as hard as I thought it would be, but its still hard nonetheless.
M52 W52 M17 T20 SS 23 from my 1st M Lives on his own BD 10/01/16 Trial Sep 12/01/16
Well she's gone and as much as she was singing and trying to show how happy she was, I am sure its BS....nothing you see and 1/2 of what you hear!! I am glad I won't be here when the movers come.
The one thing that keeps me in this is that she is going to see our therapist throughout Dec, so something is driving her to keep exploring this sitch. She also has her own counselor as well, who wants her to live alone. So who knows where this leads....its not over until its over. I have to keep GAL and detach.....but its easier to write that here than it is to live it out.
M52 W52 M17 T20 SS 23 from my 1st M Lives on his own BD 10/01/16 Trial Sep 12/01/16
yes, it is easier to write that than to live it, but we must still do our best.
so, today is Sunday. What do you plan to do with your day? Go for a walk? Take yourself to a movie? Check out a new restaurant? (Take out is ok) ... go to a museum? Do something you've wanted to do for a while but your wife had no interest in OR do something you wouldn't ordinarily do just to see what it's like. The possibilities are endless and are yours for the taking. Carpe diem! xo
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
Thank you!! I am going to get in a good workout, watch some NFL football and do my best to enjoy the day,...I have to accept the things I cannot change and play out this process while GAL.
Your support is priceless!
M52 W52 M17 T20 SS 23 from my 1st M Lives on his own BD 10/01/16 Trial Sep 12/01/16
Good! Sounds like a plan. I am doing laundry, have cleaned a bit and will watch the Pats/Jets game with some friends as we demolish the leftovers ...
2Tours, we are all in this together. Never feel like you're alone. You can always come here where people understand what you're going through because we've been there.
Hope you are having a great day! xoxoxo
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
Enjoy your game and your leftovers!! I have had a good day and I have made some good progress on detachment. Traveling this week on business, which will help with a change of scenery...take care and thank you for the attention.
xoxoxoxo right back to you!
M52 W52 M17 T20 SS 23 from my 1st M Lives on his own BD 10/01/16 Trial Sep 12/01/16
Well WS moved her things out today to her apartment for the next 3 months. We start NC on Dec 1st for 30 days, so we will see what this brings. I am reading a fascinating book called "The Obstacle is the Way". Its really helping me understand challenges in general and how our mindset can overcome them.
I am in Chicago on business and feeling better....maybe the change of scenery helps after all(bttrfly said this would be good for me).
WS has called me a couple of times today and told me she was going to right up till we go dark. GAL and still have hope that she feels the loss in December.
M52 W52 M17 T20 SS 23 from my 1st M Lives on his own BD 10/01/16 Trial Sep 12/01/16
Have a nice trip 2tours. I'm jumping the gun here, but curious as you planned your NC: what did the IC(MC?) say, for a month and then what? you'd contact each other, see the C, what was the entire plan or do you not have one? I ask because as you know my H's IC, according to him, said we should do the same thing. But it was more of something foisted upon me, with no plan or end or why or how it fit in to anything. Anyway. Stay warm!
me 42 H 32 T 7yr M 6yr BD 5/2016 ILYBNILWY Separated 7/2016
