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Surfer, grl thank you both for checking in on me.

There isn't anything new to report really, been super busy with work and gal plans, plus a few redecorations in the house. Maybe it's my frantic nesting taking place. Wh called in one evening after work, he was his usual quiet drawn out self, he played with S for about an hour and then left. I was upbeat and happy, offered him food but he said he was okay. He avoided eye contact, stayed quiet. Other than that, I've heard and seen nothing of him. I've had people at work ask me is he okay as he seems miserable all the time, I've gone on to tell some of these people I'm not with him anymore, and the ones who just appear nosey I've said why don't you go ask him. Mind reading here, but he clearly does not seem happy with his new found freedom. It does make me feel a bit sad, as I do love him. But at the same time, he fired me as his wife (though I've not heard anything on the legal front and I'm not asking or pushing as this isn't what I want.)

Still, I myself am doing alright. I'm constantly busy, though at 7 months pregnant I'm starting to get a bit tired. But I'm making the effort (which no longer seems like effort) to get out and see friends, have fun with S, and prepare for our new arrival.


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You seem really upbeat despite the circumstances. I am really pleased to hear how you are handling this. You are doing so well.

It seems you are detaching and observing rather than getting sucked in which is great and the GAL activities really seem to be working.

He's clearly not happy with his lot. I do wonder if he is expecting you to 'chase him'?

Keep it up you are being an amazing mum!

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Reading up and checking in.

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Thanks for checking in v and surfer. I have felt I've been doing better however today I was taken into hospital with some suspected complications (all is well now). I was took into the triage on the maternity ward, and kept under observations for the entire day. Wh had text in the morning, I told him I had to go in. He completely ignored that point, and didn't ask anything about it or ask how I was. I'll admit that when I was actually alone in the hospital, I did feel sad that he wouldn't even acknowledge it or offer any help. Maybe that's me with a slight expectation of him, which I need to shed. He isn't capable of anything other than thinking of himself.


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Cherry

I am glad you are okay.

Yes perhaps he isn't capable of that right now. Lower expectations will help I am sure.

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I wish I were there so I could drop everything and be "your person" to hold your hand while going through these scary experiences. But you are handling yourself splendidly. One thing about your WH, he has no one to pin his unhappiness on now, he can't point to you as you aren't there. Now he will have to face that he is the maker of his own misery. You are giving him a chance to experience your absence, this is right out of the MWD book of LRT.

How's your hyperemesis? Mine usually tapered off in the last trimester and I would eat everything in sight.


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Please take extreme self care of you and that precious life with you.

Big hugs

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Cherry - 7 months! My heavens. I remember when bump was just a tiny bubble. Where does the time go.

Sorry for not stopping by more, this place is usually fairly crowded. You have some great people posting here and watching out for you. I have been thinking of you and appreciate your visits.

Continue to take care of yourself. I'm sending you a hug and good wishes.


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Thank you guys for checking in. I did think I had my expectations low of him but I clearly must have had some that he would be there where baby was concerned. Still now I know.

Thanks Sara, he is unhappy, that I know. I've been told by people he is extremely depressed looking and quiet. You're right he doesn't have me to blame for that anymore. But I don't think that would make him miss me. I'm not entirely sure wether I even want him anymore, that's the confusing part, I know I do love him, but I feel as though I don't know him anymore, and the person he is right now- I don't want to.

Hyperemesis is still with me. There's days I'm not quite as sick, but still feel especially nauseous. Still the strange thing with pregnancy sickness is that you can go from being extremely sick to suddenly craving something!

Andrew, it does feel like it's gone extremely fast. It's all starting to feel extremely real and I'm starting to feel a bit scared that I'm soon going to have a tiny baby as well as a toddler to take care of.


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M 4
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Baby born 4/14
BD: 1/15
EA: 2/15
PA: 4/15
reconciling: 4/15
ILYBINILWY- 11/15
ILY-1/16
ILYBNILWY 4/16
ILY 6/16
ILYBINILWY 6/16
Baby due 3/17
BD 8/16
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