Tomorrow is the big day, I am praying for no surprises. We have only exchanged emails and have maintained pretty well as a separated couple the last 6 months. There is some resistance from her and I both as to the financials.
If you pray, please pray that we both get what is fair. We both contributed to our financials for 21 years. At times I think she is still in the fog and wanting me to leave with nothing, and charge me for the things I took. Sure I left and filed for D but she has been cheating on me for at least 10 years off and on with different guys, so in my mind she left a long time ago. I want her to have what she needs to raise our s13 when she has him 50% of the time, in return I pray that she gives me the same respect.
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M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
Everything will go well. It's a business negotiation, so aim for fairness, not charity. Be sure to ask for what you really want regardless of how you think she'll respond.
Thanks doodler! I will bring my laptop. I am hoping for a swift resolution, my lawyer is expensive. She is cute though.
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
My lawyer is cute too. During mediation I was telling her about my ferret and she got all mushy. It was fun to see her drop her lawyer persona for a little while.
During mediation I was telling her about my ferret and she got all mushy
Ferret, eh?
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Yep, a ferret. Several years ago, I was out for a morning run and I saw him in the middle of the road. I took him home. It took us three days to find the owner. By then, my sons had become attached to him. The owner told us we could keep him. He is one of the cutest and sweetest fury creatures on the planet. Fortunately, my 80 pound dog likes him as well.
I was telling my lawyer that during my separation my mattress was on the floor (my wife took our bed and I was building a new one) and my ferret would climb up on my bed during the night and give me a kiss on the cheek. (For real, ferrets give little ferret kisses.) My lawyer melted while I was telling her about that.
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
My lawyer melted while I was telling her about that.
*Furiously scribbling notes...
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Here I sit in mediation, really its a negotiation. There is no mediator just lawyers. She wants a bunch of money from me. I am holding out,
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
Fight the good fight, my friend. Why is there no mediator?
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
