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Molly22 - The sadness will be with you for quite some time. That's the way that grieving works. You'll learn to live with it and not have it control you. It takes time to heal - allow yourself to feel pain and let it wash through and over you and pass behind you.


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Hello Molly22,

I'm so sorry for the situation you are in.

I'm also sorry that your MC session awful and that you left confused and hurting. Michele has an excellent video "When Couple's Therapy is a Bad Idea" Please email me directly and I will be happy to send you a link at no charge.

It sounds like there are mixed signals coming and going from all directions. It is easy to be conflicted when you have so many emotions and thoughts going through your head!

You are at a very fragile point in this relationship and it would be extremely helpful to know what your next move should be. Feel free to give me a call at 303-444-7004 to discuss how we can best help you determine what to do next.

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Thanks, Andrew.

Today hasn't been the greatest. I feel really blue. I don't have the urge to contact him really. I just feel blah and I am losing hope. How do you get yourself back up on those terrible days?


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Originally Posted By: Molly22
How do you get yourself back up on those terrible days?


It really helps to get up and move around even if you don't feel like it. Also, it's generally better to be around people. Since it's almost Halloween you can put on an outrageous costume and go to the mall and find out what kind of reactions you can evoke.

If you absolutely can't find anything to do, then you can go to Walmart and pretend you're a greeter. It's Friday night so you know it's going to be special.

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I actually am going to Walmart. Sadly. smile it should be a rockin' Friday night.

Made it through the day. Bawled all the way home from work because WS sent me a bunch of relationship-y texts. On the good front, I ate healthy and reached out to a friend when I was feeling super blue. I got this.


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And when you feel it slipping away we're here for you.

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WS didn't show up on time for visitation today. He was more than two hours late with no notice. What do I do with that?

As much as I don't want to, I think I'm going to have no choice but to contact a lawyer. He doesn't believe I am entitled to any money. Anything I do ask for, he wants an explanation of why I want it. Plus, he will watch DD when I am working which means he has every single evening to do fun single guy stuff while I am parenting.


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I'm missing something. Based on your sig, it looks like your youngest child is 18. Why does she require watching?


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She has a disability and can't be left alone.


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Ah. That makes sense.

It seems like it would be helpful to at least consult with an attorney, preferably one with experience with divorces involving special needs kids.


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