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#2710925 10/18/16 12:53 PM
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So W just calls saying D is spending the night with her. But she has no food or money to buy food for them to eat. Wants to know if they can eat with me. Of course I said yes. Don't know if I'm being used or what. Still not giving her money.

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You're being used. Do you have a schedule set up with her for when she has the kids?


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Nope. She usually asks D if she wants to spend the night without me knowing. I'm the last to find out. It's always on a night when it's convenient for her other "activities".

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Then you need to come up with a schedule and have her stick to it. If you're worried about the welfare of your kids, then you have them and have her start putting in requests that will have to be approved by you way in advance. Start putting your foot down.


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Now W all of a sudden doesn't have room in her bedroom for D to spend the night. It's to "cluttered". Don't know how it got so cluttered in the last 2 hours. She's still coming to eat though. D didn't really want to spend the night anyway. She feels obligated. Wonder if this would count as W bailing on D yet again?

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Why do you ask so many questions. It's obvious you're the stable one here. The kids need stability. Set the rules.


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I need validation. Self esteem at an all time low.

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You are a good guy that is being dealt a shitty hand. You have to rise above it.

Your W's $hit is not about you, it's about her. Now this is not me saying you are faultless, but your W is having problems with herself, so you would want to put some distance between you and her.

Stay strong buddy...

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I try but she keeps finding excuses, usually our D, to see or talk to me. I haven't contacted her at all.

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Originally Posted By: Sad_Dad
Now W all of a sudden doesn't have room in her bedroom for D to spend the night. It's to "cluttered". Don't know how it got so cluttered in the last 2 hours. She's still coming to eat though. D didn't really want to spend the night anyway. She feels obligated. Wonder if this would count as W bailing on D yet again?


Well, this definitely counts as her managing to get a free meal out you.

Why does she have no money for food?

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