You are right. You won't know how you feel but it might reassure you to speak to your Mum and agree that she will step in if needed and how that 'may' look on the day if you need that. That will put your mind at ease. Then put it to the back of your mind I suggest.
My W had L send a note saying we had to agree grounds. I said, I don't agree with the D and wanted to protect my M and my Kids and don't want to D. I said we were had not separated for 2 years so I said there were no grounds for now. She then moved out.
We are now where we are. No mediation or D and whilst its limbo I am not easing the burdon of my W's concience by joining in the process at all. I am just being kind. Joining in the process is often what they want as they don't want to appear responsible or be responsive for their own actions.
Just look at the papers if he asks you to and say you will need L advice as you don't fully understand this - which is true. This is why, perhaps, that he doesn't want separate L's he wants you to do what he says - join in the process - so the burdon eases.
His circus not yours. If he is adamant he will just serve in his own grounds and you can object to it if you need to.
Surfer.
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
