Living with a WW (2)

[doodler]

Jug,

I neatly wrapped a douche bag and gave it to my wife along with a card that said, "thinking of you."

Well, not really, but that would be fun.

[RSG]

Jug,

I neatly wrapped a douche bag and gave it to my wife along with a card that said, "thinking of you."

Well, not really, but that would be fun.

You should do that lol. Pop it in the mail!

[Jug]

She already has a douche bag...

[doodler]

Have you heard of re-gifting? All you need is a card.

[Surfer]

About the worse thing I could have possibly done - I surprised her with a very expensive gift... but I didn't know she was wayward at the time and hadn't got the BD, that came a week after. I think it was one thing that pushed her over the edge for sure.

No. She was going on this course without your actions here. We all did this BTW. It's part being kind and part pursuit. You did nothing wrong. It's her journey - her circus. Nothing to do with this action. Forget that. It's just not the case. Move on with this one.

Surfer.

[Jug]

Thanks for all of the entertaining replies. Do those of you with young kids help with gifts and cards from them?

[doodler]

Jug,

Yes, I help my sons get gifts and cards for my XW even if I'm not giving my XW a gift myself. They can't drive and they're limited financially so I help them out.

[Jug]

I have to report that as I am more detached than I have ever been, I sense that ww is nicer and more pursuing than she has been in a while. She has even done more around the house. While it's nice, it doesn't matter if she doesn't break contact with douche bag.

[Eagle11]

Thanks for all of the entertaining replies. Do those of you with young kids help with gifts and cards from them?

Jug,

My W had a birthday last week and I got her a gift from our sons, but I didn't give her anything. I did tell her happy birthday, but didn't make a big deal out of it.

[Jug]

Haven't written in a while. Followed the advice for the birthday and it was mostly uneventful. Did not go to the party and did my own thing. She claims that she was/is going to break contact. I agreed to go to counseling only to talk about breaking contact and not more stalling. I'm more detached than ever but am definitely more angry. Counseling may not happen for weeks and I plan to talk to her about how continued contact is not ok and I'm not getting less angry about it.