Sandi - you told me that week's ago and I didn't listen. Not going back.
- m and ww in 30s - s4 - m 11 yrs, t12 -ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM - bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa - 9/16 ww claimed to have broken contact with om
Okay. Sandi is right, but take the cloud's silver lining. At least you have heard what she says to others and some of this might be useful for you to work on.
It's not a fail to have done this. It's a place to say, glad I did it, but I don't need it right now.
Keep going Jug. It's a slow path but you are doing great! Might not feel like it, but you are. Keep focusing on what works - as Sandi says!
Surfer.
M46/W40/D8/S6/T20/M12/Separated 6/2016,W takes kids Issues2009 Wpartying w/g.f's2013on EA2013PAdeniedWleavesMBR ImeetAP/EAhalts VariousBDDates MFCourse WSpew EAresumes I halt Wrages DBIng4/2016
I'm actually in a better place now, more ok with things either way and optimistic that the future will be better. It's not to say that it won't be bumpy and I'm not angry but I truly believe that things will be better than how they have been and are now.
- m and ww in 30s - s4 - m 11 yrs, t12 -ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM - bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa - 9/16 ww claimed to have broken contact with om
Weekend was actually pretty good, considering. Did a lot with s. Took him to lots of places and he had a good time. Knowing how dire things look with the m, I feel more detached and at peace with the situation. It still angers and sickens me, but I don't feel as sad.
- m and ww in 30s - s4 - m 11 yrs, t12 -ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM - bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa - 9/16 ww claimed to have broken contact with om
- m and ww in 30s - s4 - m 11 yrs, t12 -ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM - bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa - 9/16 ww claimed to have broken contact with om
About the worse thing I could have possibly done - I surprised her with a very expensive gift... but I didn't know she was wayward at the time and hadn't got the BD, that came a week after. I think it was one thing that pushed her over the edge for sure.
She acknowledged my B-day a few months later with a nice weekend away but that was very awkward.
If I were to do it again I'd probably shoot her a txt "Happy Birthday - hope you have a great day" and leave it at that.
Me: 40 W: 45 T: 13, M: 11 1 D: 9
Suspect A 6/15 ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16 EA/PA Discovered 3/16 EA admitted 3/16 W Moved out 4/16 W opens R talk and says A over 1/17
Thanks for sharing pac. In retrospect, you couldn't have known.
What do you think about attending a birthday party with pro-a siblings that I have no love for? The kicker is that s likes them and his cousin.
- m and ww in 30s - s4 - m 11 yrs, t12 -ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM - bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa - 9/16 ww claimed to have broken contact with om
My vote is similar to what PacLove said: tell her happy birthday, but don't do anything else. I mean, come on, your W wants to go sleep w/ someone else. The last thing she wants is to celebrate her birthday with you.
I would also skip the party w/ pro-affair siblings. Your son doesn't need to associate w/ pro-affair adults and their families, and you don't need the stress. I would decline the invitation in a friendly but firm way.
My two cents...
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
Thanks gump. I've gotten her stuff "from our son" and that's it.
I won't go to the party. As much as I would like my s to not associate with them, I don't think I can control that. I didn't make it clear that the party is for me and ww. I hope to go do something fun for me instead.
- m and ww in 30s - s4 - m 11 yrs, t12 -ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM - bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa - 9/16 ww claimed to have broken contact with om
