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EDF,

Thanks for the support and tips. I do visualize GAL activities that don't include the WW. Is it bad that I think about a lot of GAL activities that I can't do now but would be able to do if we separated?


- m and ww in 30s
- s4
- m 11 yrs, t12
-ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM
- bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa
- 9/16 ww claimed to have broken contact with om
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Between my activities and her newfound interest in working out, we will be alternating not being home every night this week. She also works out some mornings as one of her gyms has child care. This is a messed up life...


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-ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM
- bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa
- 9/16 ww claimed to have broken contact with om
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I might add that my issue is not that my Ww has mood swings, it's that she will go on and on about how bad things are my fault and how I don't have her back. It was a problem before all of this but it's now amplified.


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-ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM
- bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa
- 9/16 ww claimed to have broken contact with om
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Originally Posted By: Jug
Between my activities and her newfound interest in working out, we will be alternating not being home every night this week. She also works out some mornings as one of her gyms has child care. This is a messed up life...


This has been pretty much my life since April - except W doesn't sleep at home and every other weekend she's gone... Yes it [censored] and is messed up and is confusing on D as to when Mom will be home. On the bright side I get to see D every day - so it's really her loss right now.


Me: 40 W: 45
T: 13, M: 11
1 D: 9

Suspect A 6/15
ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16
EA/PA Discovered 3/16
EA admitted 3/16
W Moved out 4/16
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*Don't read if you don't feel like crying*

Saw this viral picture of an elderly couple crying and saying good bye to each other, which they have(had) to do now because they were forced to live in separate nursing homes. Brought tears to my eyes and definitely made me think of the future.


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- s4
- m 11 yrs, t12
-ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM
- bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa
- 9/16 ww claimed to have broken contact with om
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Saw this viral picture of an elderly couple crying and saying good bye to each other, which they have(had) to do now because they were forced to live in separate nursing homes. Brought tears to my eyes and definitely made me think of the future


Jug. We all do this early on. I suggest you try to stop it ASAP. It is you beating you up. Makes no sense when you can stand back and see it. It takes time, it all hurts. Be kind to yourself my friend.

Surfer.


M46/W40/D8/S6/T20/M12/Separated 6/2016,W takes kids
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EA2013PAdeniedWleavesMBR
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Surfer's right. Try not to do this too much. It's the worst feeling in the world. You can get through this. Keep pushing bud.


Me: 35 W: 32
S: 4
T: 6 M: 4
Physical Separation official: 5/21
Currently: DR/DBing, Focusing on me and son

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Thanks for the support, guys.

Had a bad couples mc session. All previous ones have been sidetracked by her complaining about me and I made an extra point to focus on the issue of breaking contact. She said that she can't do it and wants to talk about mediation. Mc didn't/couldn't do much. Just talked about how we should talk. Don't know that I want to go back. I'm more mad than sad. Make detaching easier...


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- s4
- m 11 yrs, t12
-ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM
- bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa
- 9/16 ww claimed to have broken contact with om
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Okay. You will get mad. But let that end quickly - be the guy that sleeps on it and moves on. Don't hold onto it. I find guys are, at times, a little better at this at times.

Get your focus back. Get into the mode where you are conducting business meetings with a person if you can. Keep the kindness, drop the feelings if you can.

You are going in the right direction. 100%.

Keep it up.

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EA2013PAdeniedWleavesMBR
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DBIng4/2016




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Why are you attending MC with a wayward wife? She will simply use it for a H bashing session.


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
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