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oh must add something from gad day talk, prior to telephone call.

we asked why I was so distant and "cold" when I still want to save our M. cant remember her exact words but along the lines of -you say you want us to be together but you sure don't act like you even want me.

she wanting me to purse? - that's what my friend thinks, that W wants to know I'm still her back up. But tells me to have no hope for R. wth is with these women?!

another thing I failed to mention, yesterday MIL told me i should move on, suggested a dating app. MIL told me W is on her high horse right now and acting strange, spending lots of money and MIL doesn't know where its coming from.

-nothing new. studied and went to a bar for college football game. no word from W just from MIL. Yesterday W told me D was not going to soccer game, as W was going to that party and would be spending the night at her bff's house. Well MIL, FIL & BIL ended up taking D to soccer game, of course W failed to communicate this to me. D scored a goal, the only goal to win the game. Super bummed. MIL also said W did not spend the day with the fam (as she had discussed at MIL's house), and that D was staying another night with MIL.

Gal activity tomorrow with a friend. Going to a festival. not sure about game night. Not really in the mood for it.


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You don't really know what they are thinking so forget the mind reading. Hahaha. There were some great college football games yesterday!!! Hope you enjoyed them!!! Sorry you missed your D's soccer game, ugh. Hope you have a good time at the festival!!!


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How was your weekend Cheesyt?


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Originally Posted By: hawker
You don't really know what they are thinking so forget the mind reading.


Agree w/ this. They are so mixed up it's impossible to tell what's going on in their brains. You seem to be getting mixed messages from your W, probably best to approach it from the "believe nothing of what they say" viewpoint.

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we asked why I was so distant and "cold" when I still want to save our M. cant remember her exact words but along the lines of -you say you want us to be together but you sure don't act like you even want me.


This is a perfect example of why it's best to discount what they're saying. This would tend to contradict her conversation w/ you the other day about OW, etc. Just jot it down and move on, let them be wishy-washy on their own time. smile

Hope your weekend was great cheesyt! You a big football fan? I'm more of an NFL guy myself, but I've got my college team that I adamantly pull for as well.


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hawker, thanks i'm working uber hard on not mind reading. proving to be 999 times more difficult that anticipated. will get there though.

weekend was ok. Went to a friends bbq because my friend for the festival canceled. BBQ was fun, met and mingled with lots of people, older people, as the couple I am friends with is in their early 40s. All families with kids, and money. But not snobby. decent day, was there ALL day. from 10 am - 7pm. then headed to the bar to watch the game with a different friend who is a cheesehead. haha.

LT0402 - Yes, always back and forth with the ww's. I live in a college town. I watch that college team play. I also watch the nfl team from here play, as well as the NFL team from my home town play. I have a couple of buddies who have college and nfl teams they root for so I watch those teams play because it gives me something to look forward to.


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Well your cheesehead friend didn't have a good weekend!!


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Feeling defeated.
Feeling as though I've lost this fight.
I know I shouldn't be snooping, OM (the affair man) and W are friends on fbook. Though she's seeing OW. and has had to my knowledge one more "bf")

No idea what's going on.

W is doing shady things with bills. We agreed to split the balance on a cc, yet she went and decided other things without consulting me, VERY disappointed. I left my home, I left my family, I left anything of monetary value, (it's not about the money) but then she goes and sticks me with more cc debt that I deserve.


I'm amazed at how shady, selfish, careless and disrespectful this woman is.

-not done picking myself up when another blow comes my way.


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You don't split the balance if it's things she bought for herself after she fired you as her wife. It's that simple.

And if I ever read that you've said "I asked if I could join" one more time I'm going to scream so loud you'll hear me.

QUIT BEING A DOORMAT!!!!!!!!!


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I agree with NYGal...YOU are better than that!!! No way would I pay 1/2 of things she has purchased for herself!!!


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this cc is from when we were together. I closed it so it couldn't be used and she's now getting around to transferring her balance out.


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