A new day is approaching

[Irish M]

Cld
We all make our own choices. My XW is in her crisis pretty deep.

I will have a life, what happens in the coming months and years will happen.

I will continue to raise and love my girls and put them first.

What I won't do is wait for my XW to wake up. I have a life to live .

I listened to the mp3 link from the Google search. It's very interesting but most of it has been said here over the years.

I look forward to reading your book

[Sotto]

Glad to hear you're doing well Irish...lady friend??....relax and enjoy, and I think it's a good idea to wait a while before introducing to the girls.

Cld- interesting that you are working on a book and I truly hope things work out well for you....if you do manage to save your M, then you'll really have something to write about!

Best wishes to you both xx

[Irish M]

Hi Sotto
Yes friend.
I'm in no rush and things just happen. The girls are no way ready and I would never force it on them.

My friend knows my situation and no pressure. It's actually nice to have a companion, no pressure and enjoy activities we both like.

As I said before. I'm not waiting for my XW to wake up. She has a long way to go and no one can guarantee what the final product will be of she wakes up.

I'm just living my life and I think it's a good thing.
In a few years I'll see where I am. If XW is back and has caught up to my process then we will see. I'm not a gambling man so I won't bet on it .

[bttrfly]

Hi Irish,
Lucky lady friend and luckier daughters who have a dad who continues and will always put them first. You are a prize my friend! So much more patient than I am ...

[Irish M]

Hi bttrfly
Xx great hearing from you and don't underestimate your patience :-)

I am actually the lucky one to have found a friend that understands me.
I see her maybe 2 times a week ( movies, hiking, dinners and talks)
No pressure for a relationship or expectations.
I'm not ready for love or commitments as I still have work to do on me.

My girls start school next week and right now that's my priority.

Healing my foot is also on my list. :-)

Hugs
Irish

[job]

How is the foot healing? Are the girls ready to return to school? Our kids went back yesterday.

Irish, I'm glad you've found a friend that understands you and can share in activities w/you. There is absolutely nothing wrong in having a friend and you are taking things very slowly and no knows where the friendship will go, but enjoy the time along the way.

[bttrfly]

Darlin' don't mistake restraint for patience!!!

How's it going with the foot?
xoxoxo

[123Gwen]

Irish - Patience and restraint are very important tools to master in life and with new relationships. Glad you are enjoying life and continuing to put the girls first in a healthy way.

How goes the foot?

[Irish M]

Hi Job, bttrfly and Gwen (((xox)))

my foot is healing nicely. as per my last x-ray the Dr. said it was healing faster than normal and I should be space boot free by labor day. I hope so, because I am bringing the girls states side to a Six Flags. Then I'm off to Vegas for a trade show.

I was reading some of the other LBS sitches today, one in particular that is here for all the wrong reasons. I think it was Job who asked if that person was in some sort of MLC themselves. I think when we do arrive here lost and confused we are in a state of depression ourselves. It's only after being here and listening to the amazing advise that we see clarity and start our own journey.

I know for myself I am a better person. a better listener and I don't take things for granted anymore.

The love for my kids has not changed. I am as close to them as I was the day they were born. God made it this way to prepare us for my XW departure.

Someone asked me not long ago if I'd help my XW if she asked for it.

I would. She is the mother of my kids. I do love her.

That same person asked me why? Why would i give her the time of day if she did wake up.

I said because I am a better person now because of her MLC. Old me would of held a grudge and shut her out forever. XW knows that of my old character so she probably wouldn't try lol . Oh is that me mind reading.


I hope you all fine peace with yourselves. This journey is still young for me and I'm sticking around here for the long haul.

hugs

[LoisB]

What would signify to you that she was waking up?

I wonder about this sometimes. Mine is a vanisher too. On holidays, he reaches out and sends messages, "I miss you guys, blah, blah, blah..."

The last time it happened, I shut it down, because it was too painful to deal with for all of us. He's been out of our lives, gradually removing himself completely, since Jan. 2012.

I sometimes wonder if I'd even recognize the changes if he actually was coming out of the fog.