First I want to apologize for the hijack of this thread...
Sometimes it happens though.
Originally Posted By: Cld
Ginger1, I forgot to add arguing. Men also don't like to argue, that's why I am not going to argue with you.
CLD,
Women don't like to argue here. However, attempting to have the last word...isn't only arguing...it is controlling.
And the way you did it, by trying to end the conversation, is also controlling.
Prior to reading all of this fun, I had been just reading your threads this morning. Mostly because I had read some posts by you that left me scratching my head and because I read an interaction between you and this thread's owner that left me feeling badly for you.
I can say I don't really feel that way anymore.
Do you have any idea how easily statistics can be manipulated? That is what often occurs, especially in studies that are not based in a physical science. So you can hold onto your numbers as hard as you want and they really don't mean all that much.
Yes divorce is easy in America. Maybe too easy, however it is the place we live in. I have to say I would much rather be here than somewhere where I have little to no rights simply because I am female.
What I see you failing to realize is your role in any of this. You argue, you dismiss when you have had enough. You find numbers that support your belief, when there are just as many if not more studies out there that don't support you.
You have many times broken the TOS of this board and have been warned about it....
This shows me you have little regard for the rules here, and that more than likely translates into other areas of your life.
Your mind is by no means open and apparently you believe that since you are not contacting your W, that you are no longer trying to control her.
I won't get into how you are dealing with your children other than to say I agree very much with the others who posted to you, although, you, who I don't believe has any sort of training in the best way to deal with children psychologically, want to tell those people they are wrong.
I am glad that you find inspiration in Mr. Bond's story, although I believe the outcome is all you are really seeing. If you want to truly learn from him, from these boards, from the strong male vets who post or posted here, don't simply look at the outcome.
Mr. Bond didn't wait for his W. He lived. He learned. He became an incredible man. A good man. And he got lucky that his W returned. I guarantee you, many of the men he was using as his examples, were not so lucky in that same way. But they will tell you they were lucky and wouldn't trade who they are now for anything.
Maybe it is time you try to learn from them instead of your statistics and your studies...
Look them up...Bworl, Mach1, Truegritter, Starsky309, Jack3beans...
Good luck to you sir. And any woman you meet if you don't change your ways....
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
