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hawker #2697867 08/18/16 08:00 PM
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If you do something just to manipulate her into thinking a certain way, it won't come across as real. If you want to show her you've moved on, then do it. But don't do it if you're hoping she's going to change her mind. They can sense things like that.


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Ok, thank you....I haven't moved on haha but I need to keep living for me and not worry about what she does...today was one of the first days in a long time that I haven't thought about her all day like I have in the past...


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hawker #2697871 08/18/16 08:14 PM
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let her ask for her stuff. keep staying dim!


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If you really want to have her think you've moved on, pack it up and put it all in garage or storage locker and text her to go and pick it up. No discussion or waiting for her. I'd hold back some things , one box and let her ask for it. Then she can come got and see the house without her stuff in it.


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Oh thats a good idea!! smile Thank you! smile


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hawker #2698460 08/21/16 06:17 PM
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anything new?


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No haven't heard anything since Friday...I really am glad Sandi posted on your thread...it was soooo helpful...I am the same with you that I feel closer when we hang out but I don't want to be her friend so....I can't do that again....went to the movies yesterday and today hung out with friends and had some beers...didn't miss her as much as usual so that was good...hope you had a good weekend!!


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So I figured the wife would text first this am because I am sure she spent the weekend with the OW...blah...yep 6:30 am...wanted something from the house which was legit. But then she said she wanted to pick up a few things and asked when I was going on my trip. I said Friday to Monday. She said I don't want to get it if you are not there. I said ok. Then she said I kinda wanted to see the dogs Sat. am...I said I won't be there and she said I know. "Do you not want me in the house if you are not home?" I said "Not a good idea". She was like really???? I said you are having and A and thinking of moving in with her so...she said "well it's not like it isn't mine or my stuff but its fine" I kept re-reading Sandi's post from Cheesyt in my head...don't cave...lol...I said you can have your stuff. She said "Well I can't wai to see what that is going to include now"...I'm like what???

So then she gets the financial paper from me at school and she was crying and said "I'm not doing this to be vindictive" I said you have chosen all of this, you left the house, dogs and those choices are yours not mine. I don't want this you do"....I did not cave, I was to the point, not mean but showing her its real..


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hawker #2698628 08/22/16 11:08 AM
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wow, a little confused. haha re read a few times.

why are these WW crying? I know maybs's ww is getting emotional with the D stuff. yours clearly is too. Is it they're starting to see things or guilt? -anyone please chime in on this. I get mean short and to the point texts. I don't know what's better...or worse?!


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Great, Hawk. Keep up the good work. I like the idea of packing up her stuff and letting her see what the house looks without her things in it.


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