good direction or backsliding?

[cheesyt]

Cadet - not moving back. I believe she's dating. Not sure. No real evidence, just a gut. She said she's not, but even if she was it would be none of my business. I feel like I'm her plan b. How do i stop being plan b? I am re-reading DR on chapter 4 as of last night. I need help.

We are going as a family to the movies tonight. the life of pets.
After the movie will be painful, Leaving my family to go to an empty house [censored].

[Cadet]

Try reading the pursuit and distance thread and tell me how you fit into that.

[Cadet]

Here is another thread to read about doormats

Doormat Tactics
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942444#Post1942444

[ForGump]

Saw you wrote this in another thread:

A week or so ago she told me through tears she's proud of who I'm becoming, that she sees the Me she fell in love with but that she was still confused and wasn't sure we'd be reconciling. (In the beginning she told me she was sure we would not reconcile)

Holy cow! This is awesome progress. Congratulations.

(Obviously, don't let your guard down, keep plugging away.)

[cheesyt]

yes, except she lost her marbles this past weekend, if you read the beginning of this thread. which is why I'm here, i feel like I'm backsliding and I don't know what my next move is.

[hawker]

Its not you backsliding its her guilt from having an EA....she wants the stability from you and the excitement from the EA....I would move back into your house and make her move out....and can you just take your kids to the movie and not your W?

[cheesyt]

the EA is long over. that lasted about...2 months.

She spoke to my therapist the day I asked her to talk about our daughter (as my therapist being the mediator) she told us to keep doing stuff as a family, and keep a routine, for example we do dinner & family game night Sunday nights...back to school shopping, first day of school, (just around the corner)
That is why we are going to a movie tonight.

[cheesyt]

and she's technically my step-daughter. which is why I cannot make any decisions...she'll keep her from me otherwise. already been threatened twice.

[hawker]

Ok, but you said you think she is dating so maybe that is why she is acting different....

[cheesyt]

Just left the movies. As always had to say good bye to my family. Breaks my heart Everytime. My W only checked her phone 3 times during the movie. An improvement. Makes me wonder if this is worth it. She doesn't want me, why do I want her? Why am I hoping to have her want me?