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Originally Posted By: Coly23

Or is this going to push him further away....

Yes it is most likely to push him away


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Ok got it! Thank you also Darkness... I feel this space is going to be my lifeline over the next few weeks/months but I'm hoping not years!!


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Originally Posted By: Coly23

Or is this going to push him further away....

Yes it is most likely to push him away


Agreed.

If he wants space, give him space.

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Just got into work, feeling very fragile and tearful. Can't stop thinking about if there is someone else how nice and lovely he is being to them. I feel physically sick....


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'M, we had a quick chat the other day and you seemed open to building our relationship back up. I was just wondering if you have any suggestions on how we can start to move forward with this as I am a bit stuck'

Or is this going to push him further away....


Hello Coly23,

I'm so sorry for the situation you are in.

It is going to sound like there is an echo around here because I am going to agree that sending him that message will push him further away.

You are at a very fragile point in this relationship and it would be extremely helpful to know what your next move should be. Feel free to give me a call at 303-444-7004 to discuss how we can best help you determine what to do next.

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Originally Posted By: Coly23
I feel physically sick....


I'm sorry you're here.

I have felt -- do continue to feel -- physically sick myself quite often.


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I have felt -- do continue to feel -- physically sick myself quite often.


I think we've all been through that phase. Fortunately, it's usually just gas. If you get someone to pull your index finger it usually brings quick relief.

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Thanks Cristy, ForGump and Doodler. Doodler, I will try what you suggested, I hope it works!

ForGump, i see that you are new like me! I came home from work this afternoon and just sobbed my heart out whilst reading the Quotes thread. It's full of really valuable advice given in the past for various situations and I would recommend you look at it if you haven't already. It really helped me see that no matter how hopeless I feel everything is at the moment there are people on here who want to help with advice, support and love. At the moment I feel like I am withdrawing far too much from the Bank of Friends (although I know they do not feel like that!) so to know I can come here to vent is a God send!!


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Meant to say ForGump, I am sorry you are here to.... :0(


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Originally Posted By: Coly23
Meant to say ForGump, I am sorry you are here to.... :0(


Thanks. Will check out the Quotes thread.

I have not cried for myself -- the pain I feel for myself feels like death, something hollow, empty and without tears, not sorrow -- but I have cried for my kids. I feel great sorrow for what they're about to experience.


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