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Tofbrks,

I'm just doodler and I don't really know anything, but if you want her out, I suspect you could boot her out (assuming there are no laws against that). All the constraints regarding her image and children are her constraints, not yours, but you're using that as an excuse to not do anything.

You can always tell her that the children can split their time between the two of you as soon as she finds an acceptable place to live (someplace you approve of).

It's not fun or easy, but I think it's your choice (again, assuming you're not breaking any laws).

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Doodler... Not using that as excuse just weigh options before pulling cord on anything.. Image aside, I still have to think about their welfare, no excuse on my part ... I can only control my actions and reactions... My actions will trigger reactions and I need to be prepared for that.
I can not force her to leave the marital house.. Says L...
I don't care one rat turd about her image... So no constraint there, was just stating her motivation behind D's
People talk about boundaries , well when we first married we had (I guess a very common talk) discussed infidelity. Deal breaker for both of us ...so she new the boundary and broke it.


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Tofbrks,

I see. And the law says you can't force her out. So, I guess you've arrived at status quo or politely ushering her out.

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Yes doodler... Sorry I did mention the apple cart thing do I guess I do use or weigh that when decision making... Accept my apology


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Why are you assuming the kids will go with her? Why can't they stay with you?


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They could Sandi but I feel as though they would choose her over me , and the younger D already said she did not want to be separated from her sister... Something I could not do. As I think the D13 would stay with me..but then that makes a D 8 choose something she shouldn't have to choose..

Well this would be until we could work out a schedule.. Which I will have what I would like before she gets back from beach on Saturday.


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Tofbrks

My WW asked me to split the kids up and she never brought them back so the boys can have time together. It is your choice on whether you want to let them stay with your W but IMO I would never split them up. No matter how old they are.


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Tofbrks,

Do you feel like you would be a competent dad to both of your daughters if you had 100% custody and your wife was no longer living with you?

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Originally Posted By: doodler
Tofbrks,

Do you feel like you would be a competent dad to both of your daughters if you had 100% custody and your wife was no longer living with you?



Yes without a doubt


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Tofbrks,

It sounds like there's nothing preventing you from politely asking her to leave.

My situation was a little different, but I asked my wife to leave and she did. I've forgotten what I said to her. She says that I never said "get the f*ck out" but that's what I implied. I'll go with her version because I honestly don't recall. I did giver her a date to be moved out. She did push back a little; she said it'd take a while to schedule the movers. I told her that wasn't true (or something to that effect). She missed her move out day by one day.

It can be done, but again, our situations are little different.

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