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Originally Posted By: cbtdad
In my first situation I had a WW. This time around I have a WAW and can totally tell the difference. My W is looking at houses, talking about future stuff, makes future plans, etc


I'm guessing she is making future plans without you?


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My W is so back and forth with things... One day she won't stop with the MR talk, the next day she's yelling for no reason, then she disappears for a few days, and then it repeats... I'm not even interested in trying to figure out if she is WW, WAW, MLC, or just bored and/or depressed.

She got this ball rolling by filing, and she's going to find a way to stop it on her own if she decides to try for any kind of future with me. I'm just no longer fighting for the same thing I was fighting for prior to the filing. That wasn't only not working and having negative impact on everyone around me, but I realized I didn't even know what the h3ll I was fighting for at the time, it was just a survival mechanism coming from my reptilian brain... Nowadays... I fight for me!!! <FLEX> smile


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Originally Posted By: betterm
I fight for me!!! <FLEX> smile

okay, might've been a little over the top on this... I logged on here immediately after finishing my BodyBeast workout and the adrenaline is still pumping pretty heavily. haha


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Urgh havnt been to gym in days frown need to flex


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"guessing she is making future plans without you?"

Nope. That's what I'm saying. She is making future plans with me. Like family vacations, concerts, couples dates, etc
Looking at houses and saying "we"

I'm saying WAW will think there is some chance there vs a WW won't even pay any attention as long as an OM is in the picture


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update:
1. I love my new IC
2. I hate food poisoning
3. I'm impartial of my W
Have a good day, everyone.


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1. I love my IC too.
2. I hate food poisoning too and I'm glad I haven't had any recently.
3. My wife was a lovely curly haired beauty that I adored. Where did she go?

You have a good day too. Sending you an eight pack of super soft TP.

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Originally Posted By: betterm
update:
1. I love my new IC


How often do you see your IC?


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Originally Posted By: RDS
How often do you see your IC?

I see her weekly but she's offered her services to me twice weekly if needed. I might actually do that, or instead switch to 90 minute sessions. It's amazing how helpful it is, which is odd thinking for me as someone wwho's always kept things to myself.


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How often do you see your IC?

I see her weekly but she's offered her services to me twice weekly if needed. I might actually do that, or instead switch to 90 minute sessions. It's amazing how helpful it is, which is odd thinking for me as someone wwho's always kept things to myself.


I'm seeing mine bi-weekly. I thought about doing weekly sessions but my insurance is paying for 21 sessions so I wanted to spread them out as long as I could. I'm pretty sure I could get my doctor to write me another prescription for more IC sessions if I needed. Right now having the DB coach one week and the IC the following week seems to be working so far. These past few days I probably could have used the IC every single day. smile

I'm like you as far as never thinking I would see an IC. I keep so much inside me and I always wanted to work things on my own. Keeping things internal and not communicating with my wife in a constructive way built a wall between us. It was a big thing that pushed my W away.


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August 23 - DB used against me in every way
Divorce July 18, 2017 - Life is getting better every day
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