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So he went to a concert last night with some friends and it's taking everything in me not to ask if "the girl" was there. Trying to convince myself that it doesn't matter if she was there and me asking isn't going to accomplish anything. Just needed to get that out. Also I'm wondering how getting back together would even work. How do I trust him again?


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I just caught him in another lie!!!! I can't do this anymore


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Originally Posted By: sr9e2d7
I just caught him in another lie!!!! I can't do this anymore

Do you know how to tell if he is lying?

His lips are moving.

See my first post that says to believe nothing he says!
Why?
Because of the lies.


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So he's always lying?


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I've stopped trusting my W many months ago... I now know whenever she says she's got "work" to catch up on, she's more than likely spending time with OM... working late, working on weekends etc...

It's more or less at the point now where she just doesn't say anything.


Me: 40 W: 45
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I feel like I'm falling apart. Can't stop crying I just want to know why?? Why is this happening? When will it be over?


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Is 35 too young for a MLC? I feel like that might be what he's going through. Not that it matters, he's still putting me through hell


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sr9e2d7,

It does not matter at this point if it is MLC or not. You need to focus on you and your daughter.


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sr9, what have you been doing for yourself?

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I have become the sole caretaker for my daughter. Everything I do, I do with her because he has not been involved. He comes to see her once or twice a week and plays with her for about 1/2 hour. So all I'm doing is focusing on me and her. My friends are great, but all i find myself thinking about is "What is he doing?" "Who is he with" "Is he lying about where he is". I try so hard to be present and enjoy every moment with my daughter, but I miss him. The hurt hasn't lessened at all!


Me: 37
Husband: 35
Married 5 years, together 13
Daughter - 1
Bomb dropped - 12/28/2015
He's moving out (officially) - 4/15/2016
EA confirmed 6/1/16
PA confirmed 8/1/16
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