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Martin5,

You are on the right track towards healing. Keep putting in the work and keep your mind forward and with hope.

In my state it is a no fault divorce state, so awaiting for her to file is more me taking a stance that I do not accept nor approve of divorce. In my sitch she still has not shared a reason for her leaving and there has been no ea/pa. I don't have much hope, but I will not file. She can do it and then she can explain to the world why she did it.

I will stay focused on my healing, becoming the best dad ever and becoming the person only a fool would leave. She can decide for herself whether fool or not.


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D final 6/1/2017

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About the same age as my wife, and a lot of wives seem to leave, maybe mid life crisis

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Originally Posted By: Martin5
About the same age as my wife, and a lot of wives seem to leave, maybe mid life crisis


Perhaps MLC is a part of it.
I have settled on WAW due to my lack of connecting with her emotionally. Among other failures on my part in the MR.
I know I don't hold all the blame, but I can only work on and correct my part, and so that is my new path in my journey.


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D final 6/1/2017

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Has she given any sign that she may return to the MH?

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None.

She has shown nothing but anger and resentment towards me and her d17.

I believe she is seeking an escape, and she is scared.
She is useing me as her lighting rod for her issues.

I have hope, but it may only be hope as my perception is that she is torching all the bridges and even if she were to have a change of heart, there would be no way to return.

So I focus on my path forward and trust in God to direct me to where I must go from here.


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D final 6/1/2017

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Just checking in to see how Martin is doing today.


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D final 6/1/2017

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Hi Sadhub, up and down, like you, I don't think she intends to return, and is still involved with the AP, future life seems bleak, nut have 16S and and 14 D to be strong for, she left MH 3 months ago, taken all her personals, and removed wedding ring, still have not completely accepted fact she has gone, hope it gets easier. Already got to the stage when initial support is dwindling, quite natural I am sure, therapist says I have to get used to 'being' rather than relying on outside influence, pretty hard after 22 years in a close relationship

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Martin

What are you doing to move forward?
What are you doing to create a future that is not so bleak?

There is hope and we can do this.

Be well today my friend. Keep posting and we can share ideas and success as we move forward.


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D final 6/1/2017

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Hello Martin5,

I'm so sorry for the situation you are in.

Sadly, it isn't unusual for the spouse that wants out of the marriage to take their things and be gone for 3 or more months. She may not intend to return right now, but that doesn't mean that she won't change her mind.

Knowing what to do and what not to do at this point is crucial. Feel free to give me a call at 303-444-7004 to discuss how we can best help you determine what to do next.

Cristy
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A Divorce Busting Coach can help you save your marriage, even when your spouse wants out.

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Martin,

Just focus on you and today. My W has been gone for 5 months. Only thing we can control is ourselves. We are here for you.


H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6
S-9,8,8,6,4
S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15
EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16
PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16
XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16
Finally moving forward...
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