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doodler #2679167 05/20/16 06:58 AM
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To tell everyone what she is upto!

I did made a mistake 7 years ago and had a short affair and but held my hand up apologise, I have spent the last 7 years making amends in every way being a amazing husband and dad! Putting up with her put downs and bad behaviour!

She seem to think two wrongs make a right and its all about the children, just so she can hold her head high! Her words "I don't want to be seen leaving the family home"

I'm not prefect but have the balls to hold my hand up when I make a mistake!


Me: 40 W: 36
T21 M17
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EA happened.
PA happened.
June 2016
trying to piece our M and life's back together...
blueboy #2679293 05/20/16 12:37 PM
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Hey blueboy, I just posted on betterm about dropping the rope. It's literally just walking away, physically, emotionally, financially. Offer no support and focus on yourself.

An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. If you can walk away then do it. If you can kick her out, definitely do it. But do not cover up her affairs. Don't let her spin her story.


Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
DDJ #2679313 05/20/16 01:09 PM
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I've walked away phyically, financially, find emotionally diffficult!

We are live separately from the weekend!


Me: 40 W: 36
T21 M17
S12 D10 D10
ILYBNILWY
EA happened.
PA happened.
June 2016
trying to piece our M and life's back together...
blueboy #2679337 05/20/16 02:31 PM
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Wife want to talk about how we told the kids and now gone missing in car crying!

Told me she love me, than rang to say it was in a do anything for you way!


Me: 40 W: 36
T21 M17
S12 D10 D10
ILYBNILWY
EA happened.
PA happened.
June 2016
trying to piece our M and life's back together...
blueboy #2679503 05/21/16 09:40 AM
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Well we have told the children, really need to drop the rope and work on myself and my 3 beautiful children!


Me: 40 W: 36
T21 M17
S12 D10 D10
ILYBNILWY
EA happened.
PA happened.
June 2016
trying to piece our M and life's back together...
blueboy #2679513 05/21/16 10:54 AM
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Blueboy, as long as your conscience is clear and you know that you're doing what is right then you can't go wrong.

Focus on your kids, literally, take no note of your WW. Acknowledge her, but no note.


Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
DDJ #2679632 05/21/16 10:53 PM
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Can't believe, I'm 40 years old and having to rebuild me life from rock bottom!

4 weeks ago I know where I was going and had plans now I living day by day!


Me: 40 W: 36
T21 M17
S12 D10 D10
ILYBNILWY
EA happened.
PA happened.
June 2016
trying to piece our M and life's back together...
blueboy #2679652 05/22/16 01:49 AM
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Would you rather rebuild at 40, or be stuck in the same rut you were actually in.


Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
DDJ #2679655 05/22/16 03:22 AM
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I love my wife, I believe deep down she love me!

They way I'm viewing it is ether I look after myself and move on our she realises that she love me and shows willing to sort.

Only time will tell!


Me: 40 W: 36
T21 M17
S12 D10 D10
ILYBNILWY
EA happened.
PA happened.
June 2016
trying to piece our M and life's back together...
blueboy #2679705 05/22/16 10:38 AM
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Screw up, let the W talk me into change plans with kids, acted like a doormat this most stop! Also used girls as a opener, the girls want to send quality time with you!

Soften me up texting me about sons football tourenment all day!

God, got it detach and go dark!


Me: 40 W: 36
T21 M17
S12 D10 D10
ILYBNILWY
EA happened.
PA happened.
June 2016
trying to piece our M and life's back together...
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