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Just another voice agreeing that starting the Zoloft now is a wise choice, for all the reasons listed already. You need every tool in your toolbox right now, includingn having yourself in the best mental state that you can be in, given the circumstances.

I wish that I had both started my ADs earlier, and at a higher dose, so that when I had the rug pulled out from under me again I might have been better able to handle it. Starting ADs when I was already at rock bottom left me facing a much bigger hill to climb to get back to myself. Not sure I'm there yet, even after almost 8 weeks, and that was with an increased dose at 4 weeks. ADs often need dose adjustments, and every dosage change needs yet another month to reach effect.

And if you have separate anxiety meds (like Xanax or valium, etc.), just take the silly things if you're having anxiety. They don't turn you into a different person. They just take the edge off and let you feel more like yourself again. You don't win any extra points in this world for suffering unnecessarily.

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thanks coffee. stay strong.


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thanks Phoebe. went to dinner tonight with family; it felt very uncomfortable but I managed to stay light and breezy. WAW was pretty conversational about her work stuff but said she was very tired due to all the stuff going on in her life. I asked like what and she gave a list that included personal life... when we got in the car I made the mistake of commenting that the personal doesn't have to be that way and she rolled her eyes. I felt pretty good after we got home worked out while d7 played with the dog. I've been praying and praying to have some peace and for GOD to guide me. The way I feel right now it seems to be working. Only time will tell but I have gave it up to GOD as I can only work on myself. planning GAL this weekend by volunteering with d7 for finding homes for homeless animals. should be great and looking forward to it.
I have a question: how do you all identify the areas that you need to work on that are most important?
Prayers to all that your road gets easier and filled with as much happiness as you can find. its within us we just need to change our attitudes and outlooks. be the change that you seek


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Poschan - I find it so ironic how my W also complains of how tired she is and how much work she has when we do chat. I choose not to respond - I know the real reason, these are the things that will wear on them.


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Originally Posted By: poschan

I have a question: how do you all identify the areas that you need to work on that are most important?


I think it is a matter of self reflection to determine this. I have also sought out feedback from some that I trust. I also try to look at areas that may have the most impact in my life. I see life as a journey and in this journey the goal is to learn, grow and be better than yesterday. Self reflection is key.

Write out a list that you think applies.
Seek out feedback from trusted individuals.
Compare, and then start from there.

IMOH.


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IMHO. Not IMOH


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Thanks SH. Tried a Zoloft last night and felt awful today. Had the shakes and just did not feel right. Discontinuing until talk with MD. Me and d7 did a volunteer outing today and had a great time. Hardly talk to WAW even though we are in the same home. She continues to move stuff to her new place. This week was rough, mot much energy and tired. Its behind me though and I look forward to a better next week. Have a great rest of the weekend all


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Yikes. Sorry to hear that the meds made you feel crummy. Definitely talk to your doc about it.

I'm glad you and your D7 had a good time volunteering to help with the homeless pets. That sounds like quality time for a good cause. Priceless.


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poschan,

I just wanted to check in and see how you are doing.

Hope all is well.


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Me, too, Poschan.

Wishing you a day of peace and calm.


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