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Babe #2790150 05/14/18 11:22 PM
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Enjoy your trip

You as others have said are amazingly patient

Four years is a long time

God bless


Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
Babe #2790160 05/15/18 12:45 AM
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Babe,

Enjoy your trip and definitely keep your expectations to zero. Travel safely and can't wait to hear how your trip went.


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
job #2791328 05/21/18 07:00 PM
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Thanks Gordie and Job !!

I got back from Seoul, it was a 4 days trip and was quite wonderful. We did not travel together outside of our country for five years...

Most of the time we work like a team when we travel together; he is good at checking the maps or find the entrance/correct exit of metro. I find good restaurant or cafe for food and nice meals smile

It was really good to travel with him.

There were three nights there, we did not have sex. I don't know when men are at the last stage of midlife crisis, how they feel, treat and see sex or the intimate relationship with his spouse.

One thing that really bothers me was he was there for a concert of pop music female group, I'm so embarrassed, a man in 44, so into the young girls singing and dancing. besides this, everything is fine.

He was quite caring during the entire trip.

He is still living in his apartment, when I arrived home, texted him, thank him for the wonderful trip(he paid the flight and hotel) I had a great time there with him. He responded, he was happy to have me as companion for this trip.

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He sounds like a teenage boy

Minus the sex drive

Or maybe the teenage boy who is really nervous around girls

I have no idea how my MLCer feels about sex either

So i am trying to just be very patient with no expectations

Glad the trip went well with no drama


Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
Babe #2791478 05/22/18 06:06 AM
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Babe,

I am glad you had a nice time. It sounds like he's still thinking of himself as a "young man" of the world. He's still got a ways to go and it could be another year or so. Keep those expectations at zero.


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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Gordie, without drama and I enjoy my time there smile I think husband needs time still... but I'm total fine with the way I live now.

Job, it's like there is a 13 years old boy and 44 years old man existing at the same time, it does make people confusing... sometimes he would act just like a teenager(but the time gets lesser) sometimes he is the man I know for decades. STILL - I'll keep my expectation to it's minimum !

Thanks so much !!!

Babe #2793975 06/04/18 06:09 PM
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Husband gave me surprise last Saturday... In past 12 months, he would come home during weekend, I need to open the door for him, he actually had the keys, but he told me he lost all of them.

Last Saturday, he opened the door himself with the set of old keys he's got. I was calm and behaved as usual, but my heart shouted hallelujah !!!

Still, I act very very calm smile

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Babe, I am so glad you checked in. I follow your posts and love your very clear faith and patience. I think you are right that that was a beautiful sign of his feelings of comfort and trust, and that your being calm was the perfect way to not pressure him.


I believe I will see the bounty of the Lord in the land of the living.
Wait for the Lord with courage.
Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.
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First thing; Gerda, thank you for stopping by(hug).

I'm doing fine, some friends suggest that I ask husband to move back. He moved out of our apartment now for 3 years. I don't think it's a good idea and I did follow anyone's opinion. I trust in my Lord, think He has the best plan and the most good timing when it talks about coming home of my husband. Secondly, Midlife crisis is a very unique issue, very few people could understand this journey I had with my husband. If not I had 4 years of experience of his mlc, I wouldn't believe such thing...

I learned from some old and new posts, I found my husband might be the 'passive aggressive' type of man. I didn't know this and I'm thinking he is not yet came out of the crisis so the passive aggressive feature is that obvious ? or he just had it hidden when we got married ? He is good at having his true emotions, it came from his family and how he was brought up... he had a dysfunctional family. If he comes out of the crisis successfully, will he be a happier man and more healthy mentally ?

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He is good at having his true emotions 'hidden'

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