Offering Prayer

[SH_]

Good morning,

I have a special prayer in my heart this morning for sweet V. I have read her post this morning and my heart aches as I see she is having a down moment today.
She provides so much support and care for many of us in our dark moments.

This morning I pray that she may have peace and be blessed with the strength as she feels the pain from her experiences, and heal and be forever stronger for what she has endured.

[bigybiz]

I must say I really need to be thankful. I spent some time today ready a few other people's posts today and I realize how lucky I have it. I read many stories of people who are struggling with affairs, long distances, interfering relatives, blood thirsty lawyers, etc, etc.

My W and I are not at each other's throats. We spend time together as family and have a very nice time. We eat most family meals together and we do not have any real/scary fights. The only real tension is about money and our past hurts. And we have not been to see lawyers. The inhouse Sep was at first torture and now it's quite calm. I do think her detachment and my increased confidence has really been the formula. And for me quite hopeful.

I need to say right here - my increased confidence is not because of anything I've done. It's totally because of my asking God to change and shape me.

For a couple of days I had some setback and reverted to some bad behavior. It's because I went from confident to arrogant. I kicked God out of the drivers seat and thought I knew better.

I've asked God to forgive me for that and I have recommitted myself to following his path - wherever it takes my, my children and my W.

Thanks prayer partners for being there for me.

[collin]

Please continue to pray for me. The past few days have been rough emotionally. I need strength to get through this and also understanding/empathy, I need to be able to look at this from my W's POV and not only from my emotionally skewed perspective.

[bigybiz]

Collin: I continue to pray for you (in fact I just did right now). I empathize with how you feel. When we are mired in hurt it's very hard to look at it from our spouses point of view. We want to cry out and say but "I'm hurting too" or "look what you did to me", etc. There is no easy way for doing this. I have tried to pray before I speak to my W and during. I pray to honor this convo and to help me truly listen. I have noticed that the times I do not pray before, during or after. The conversations don't go so well.

Please rest on God - ask Him to change you. I've recently started to ask God to make me into the kind of Man/Husband my wife needs (not the one she wants).

Perhaps if we trust that God will provide us with a greater future than we could imagine - if we trust and obey Him.

It's not easy, but I have faith in you.

[SH_]

Collin: I continue to pray for you (in fact I just did right now). I empathize with how you feel. When we are mired in hurt it's very hard to look at it from our spouses point of view. We want to cry out and say but "I'm hurting too" or "look what you did to me", etc. There is no easy way for doing this. I have tried to pray before I speak to my W and during. I pray to honor this convo and to help me truly listen. I have noticed that the times I do not pray before, during or after. The conversations don't go so well.

Please rest on God - ask Him to change you. I've recently started to ask God to make me into the kind of Man/Husband my wife needs (not the one she wants).

Perhaps if we trust that God will provide us with a greater future than we could imagine - if we trust and obey Him.

It's not easy, but I have faith in you.

AMEN to this.

Thanks bigybiz for this thread and your sincere prayers

[collin]

I understand that metalcore/screamo music is not for everybody. But, for me, when I get down, nothing beats a good aggressive song.

I've heard this song a million times, but this time I was listening to it and I had to just stop what I was doing so I could wrap myself in the lyrics. It perfectly sums up my past few days and I wanted to share it with ya'll. In hopes that maybe it'll help someone, someday get through a situation and give them a reminder that through it all God is with us.

The entire song is amazing, but this lyric is the one that hit me:

Artist: Haste the Day/Song: Travesty

As I am met with travesty,
and I am broken and I am empty.
And through it all I can see your face.
With words unspoken
I hear your voice and
I see the hand, The hand that writes it all.

[SH_]

As the end of a bizarre week come to a close and the beginning of a new week commences, I wanted to share a prayer.

I pray for those of us that believe in the sanctity and value of the MR and family unit, that we may learn from our mistakes, that we can grow from what we learn, and that we can become the man/woman that we should be, to provide the service of a loving, outstanding partner and spouse. I pray that the fog that surrounds the WAS/WS may thin enough for them to see what can be if both partners are willing to put in the effort and love.

I pray for the children of the families that are going through the challenges, that they may have the comfort of loving parents, the strength from angels, and peace from God. They are not the reason for these challenges, and should not bare the scars that it can cause.

I pray for all on these forums that you have the strength to endure, the acceptance of what may be, and the belief that you will be better regardless due to the things you learn and act upon to be a better person, partner and parent.

These things I pray this morning.

Amen

[J5K]

I pray for the children of the families that are going through the challenges, that they may have the comfort of loving parents, the strength from angels, and peace from God. They are not the reason for these challenges, and should not bare the scars that it can cause.

SadHub,

Just read your post and as soon as I read this part I broke down and cried. No child deserves to have a mother and father split up.

I pray that those mothers and fathers find their way back to each other for the sake of the children to become one family again.

Amen

[bigybiz]

Thanks for the prayers gentlemen.

[collin]

Sometimes I think God speaks to us in the most random of times and places.

I had my headphones on at work, then all of a sudden TobyMac comes on talking about Ephesians 6:19:

"Pray also for me, that whenever I speak, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel"

To me that is so appropriate for what we are going through. I think we need to pray for each other so when we speak (to our (ex)-spouses) let the words we say profess to them that we are firmly rooted in the gospel.