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Lambo

Stay strong for you and your children.

Truth will out and please document, record and take pictures.

You know an addicts word is not good and WW has not yet hit rock bottom.

I am praying for you today.

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I am aware that today is Saturday

Detach

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The weekend has come-and-gone and she has been sober. She cleaned the house all day today and said she has reached her bottom---so she says.

She said the OM has been texting and emailing off the hook and she isn't responding. I am trying to play it cool. Because seriously, if she wants to be with a man that keeps her an addict and keeps her away from her children, they deserve each other. She admitted the other night when she text me she was coming home to tuck the boys in bed, he ordered another bottle of wine to get her good and drunk. She had a choice, don't get me wrong.

She also had a talk with our son yesterday and told him she had a problem and he told her how much it hurts him when she doesn't come home. She promised him she wouldn't do it to him again. If she hasn't figured out what kind of predator this guy is, then nothing I can say or do will convince her.

Only time will tell.

Big interview tomorrow. That is where my focus is.

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All my fingers and toes crossed.

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Please let me know how the interview went.

Keep on posting.

I need to uncrossh my toes on the job, I am getting cramps.

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V,

Thank you for the crossing of toes and fingers! I have one more interview with them in a few weeks. Hopefully will be over soon.

I spoke to a paralegal yesterday that works for the family justice center here in town. The news was very discouraging. She said the only winners in the whole thing are the attorneys.

Getting full custody of my children is not going to happen. Here in this county she said she never sees it happen despite all the drugs, etc... She's not drinking at home and the pot issue is so common in our county that they don't look at it as a problem at all.

So basically I have two options:
1. Divorce and get 50/50 with her. This means she can move in with the OM who is a big addict and endanger my children.

2. Stay in the situation to protect the children and pray she gets a DUI or something that brings her down, then go after them.

I also don't want to be setting an example for my children that her behavior is ok and this is how marriage works. Its not a good situation.

Feeling defeated today and don't know what to do. Any advice would be appreciated.

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I am praying for you this day Lambo

Take special care of yourself and your children. Continue to seek answers and opportunities for your sitch. It can help you focus forward and not feel trapped in the emotional state of despair. I know first hand the challenge for doing this, but I believe if we continue to put one foot in front of the other an answer can be seen.

I hope you can find moments of peace this day. I encourage you to make moments of peace with your children through time with them and any small distractions that you can provide them.


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Please no discouragement.

I have read here of much worse sitches including mothers involved in the sex trade and fathers with very seedy habits including drugs alcohol and porn. Mothers and fathers who are very troubled indeed.

It ALWAYS sorts itself for the more stable parent, the one who persists, loves and puts the children first.

Please document, record and keep detailed records. This is very important, I would like to emphasise this. Take photos etc.

Please also attend Alanon, real life support. Insist WW attends AA as a prerequisite.

I think this is the lowest you can be. Know this your boys and you are worth every single breath and fight you have.

I am projecting my rainbow strength to you today if you would like this.

You are in my prayers today.

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Oh and I have mentioned hugs haven't I?

Dads can say "I need a hug today" and have some loving time with their amazing children.

Breathe.

Cramp relieved.

Hugs


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V,

You are kind and funny! You made me laugh. WW is gone to a "meeting" and has hinted she may not be coming home tonight. Its interesting that she came up and kissed me goodbye. She does this every time she runs off and parties with the OM.

Very discouraging info from lawyer today. I don't have a case right now for 100% custody. She'd get 50% and I just can't allow that predator around my kids. I found out OM's baby-momma is trying to get full custody of her kids and has mandated that my WW is not to be allowed around the kids because of what is going on at the house.

If she moved in with him then it would be my kids.

I think I have to stay put for the time and pray that God breaks her. She can't be driving drunk, etc.... She is either going to kill someone or herself.

Am I wrong for this decision for now?

Lambo

I appreciate the hugs. I tell you, its tough not to go down the road of infidelity myself right now due to 0 of my needs being met. Feel like a lonely, single dad. However, I know happiness cannot be defined by a relationship with another human being. I am working on this!!!

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