Headed for D - Trying to move on

[J5K]

Hi everyone

What were some of the books to read?

I have seen so many suggestions and the only one I can remember is No More Mr. Nice Guy.

[J5K]

So I got served yesterday evening from the buyers of the house and they want all their expenses paid for. Now have to fight this along with D from W.

I was too nice with W and now life is spiraling out of control with Ls.

[CWOL]

Yep, when it rains, it pours. :-(
Hopefully your L friend can settle the suit quickly. Is there any way to let the other party know what's happening? It may get you some sympathy and get it over quickly.

[Melo]

As far as self help books go, I like Unleash the warrior within. Helped me quite a bit 10 years ago, I think I will re-read it.

[J5K]

The other party has been colluding with my STBXW about this. W wants the money from the home and does not care about me. Its her tactic to put pressure on me to speed up the D.

[CWOL]

Man, that's terrible!

[J5K]

So as I signed the retainer today for my buddy to represent me for the house lawsuit, I also spoke to my L and signed the paperwork for the psych eval. My L had a phone conversation with psych doctor today and doctor stated that it was important that the boys stay in the stable matrimonial home that they know so that is a plus. Of course the cost of the eval is the highest dollar figure possible and is going to take 4 to 6 weeks to complete.

I pray that the Lord will protect me and my boys and direct me to ensure that I am taking the correct actions.

I see from other posts that people suggest to take the high road.
I wish I knew how to handle this in my sitch.
I either continue to fight tooth and nail and get W to co-parent in Michigan or I move to Toronto and co-parent there.

Entightlement is all I can continue to think of with STBXW.
I can no longer tolerate bad behavior and that is why I continue to fight. When I have my S2 and S4 wanting me to cuddle with them before bed and I find out that W chooses to go GALing with OM even before the boys are asleep at her parent's house and tells them she is going out with a friend makes me angry that the boys have that type of role model for a mom!

[dream]

I think you are taking the high road. You're doing what's best for you and your boys. Personally, I think you should continue to fight for your boys to stay in Michigan with you. From what I can tell, you're a great dad!

I'm a bit confused though... I missed something. You have buyers for your house? Is this the house you're currently living in?

[J5K]

Thank you dream,

Yes, I was too nice and trusted WW when she said she wanted to reconcile. All she was doing was lying to me and just wanted me to move and co-parent in Toronto. So I was going through with my transfer with work and signed a purchase agreement to sell the house in Michigan. I just made the correlation today that they date we signed the purchase agreement, she left with OM for a weekend trip to Florida. I need to have more respect for myself and grow some huge balls!

[J5K]

So STBXW sends me a text and calls, let it go straight to voicemail. FIL has MRI at 645 am Saturday and she wants me to come home early so that she doesn't have to drive late to get back to Toronto?

How do I handle this? I have to go get a rental car tomorrow because she refuses to drive the damaged car back to Toronto and now she wants me to leave work earlier so she can get home at a decent time and then what, go get comfort from OM later that day possibly?

What do I do? How do I respond?

The nice guy that I am would do it for his W, but not sure I would for a friend unless that friend had kids and treated me with respect. Yes, it would get me more time with my boys, but at this point I don't feel like I owe her anything.

Please help!