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job #2672488 04/28/16 09:13 AM
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Ok am a little apprehensive as we are doing parents evening together.

Will keep my patience

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Stay positive and calm and remember to breathe!


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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Hope you managed to be cool as a cucumber, serene and looking lovely xx


T 13 M 7
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D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
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You would be proud, I was calm but distant. I work at the school also and one of the teachers said I looked confident and was smiling smile .

It was also obvious how little h knows about the day to day of his son. He was asking me!! Google it prat ( I didn't say that but they ugly it)

He constantly had that concerned look on his face...the concerned father ..whatever

I am sure h drove away with food for thought about he little knowledge he has of his sons education...he's made his bed and soon that bed will become as hard as nails.

Me...I took the higher ground and I'm pleased with myself. No I wasn't overly nice to him but I was civil and didn't get annoyed.l.despite me wanting to rip his head off

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I am proud & you should be proud too. Did it feel good to take the higher ground and be smiling and confident? :)xx


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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
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Nice job Mia! Being calm but distant is GREAT! Work the frustrations out somewhere else.

Keep taking care of you.


Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced
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Thanks, yeah it did feel good.

He looked completely out of his comfort zone. There was one appointment that he did on his own and I bumped into one of out sons friends and his dad and was chatting when h walked past....it was only me that saw h and I could see he was about to say hello to sons friend and dad but then stopped himself....I am sure he felt uncomfortable...good. He lef a good life because he was 'unhappy' pathetic.

But yes, I definitely feel like I came off the better person.

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I live with my MLCer and I notice anytime I take the high road, I see more and more guilt out of him. The times my anger gets hold of me, he feels justified as I only make myself look bad.

Glad it made you feel better. Keep practicing that; good stuff!


Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced
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My youngest son came with me. He kept hugging me when his dad was there. And I just felt h was an absolute twat for putting his kids in this situation. What an idiot, getting involved with his work colleague. Didn't think of his kids just his own self entitled idea of happiness. What about his kids right to being brought up by two parents together

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Mia,

Nice job! I'm proud of you. Taking the high road takes a lot of energy and positive thinking and you did a great job. Keep up the good work!


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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