Just found out 3 weeks ago - happy valentines day!

[Scotch]

Storm,

I can't look at the texts per say. They are on her phone which is locked. I don't have the passcode.

There is no way if I demand it she will give it to me. I can guarantee that one.

I do have her passcode to her email. I have thought about going on Facebook, clicking forgot password, and have it sent to email where I can get it and get into her Facebook account to see what she has been saying to him on there. Thats been going through my head for a while.

We have 4 kids. Youngest are 8 year old twins. Telling her to get out is a tough one as you know, but seems more complicated with kids. It may be the wake up call she needs tho.

Did you have kids in the house at the time? Mine don't know anything yet. Well, accept our 17yr old. Who she told.

[LiM]

Storm,

I can't look at the texts per say. They are on her phone which is locked. I don't have the passcode.

If you ask me, that is a HUGE red flag. If she's got nothing to hide, there shouldn't be a problem with it. I have no problem with my WW looking at my phone even though doing so would show her that I know everything that she has been up to. I have nothing to hide.

[Scotch]

LiM,

Agreed. I should have stopped that a long time ago! So should every couple. There is no reason for couples to not have access to each others phone.

It's been this way for a while. This isn't a recent thing with her locking her phone. And actually. Its probably been that way from the start.

[Stormchaser]

Scotch, what is her reason for not letting you see her phone?

Is the phone in your name? Can you access the records? How do you know for sure she's in an EA? Has she confessed?

[Scotch]

Storm,

I actually have my own thread going called "Up and Down" under Newcomers. I didn't mean to take over this thread if you can jump over there to help me.

I'm sure she doesn't want me to see because I will see what she has and is saying to him.

The phone is in both our names. I can access the records of what number text or call her but it doesn't show that information when you use Facebook Messenger to text which is what she is using.

I found out by finding her diary where she wrote him a letter (not sure if it was sent) about how hes turned her world upside down and shes falling in love with him.

I asked her if she was "involved" with someone and after saying no twice, I said I knew everything, and so she said yes, it just happened.