Good to hear you are doing so well detaching and focusing on you and your future. Only a fool will want to leave you now.
I look forward to the day I am in your position and have full control of myself and working on my future again. What a refreshing feeling that will be.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
I feel the same way. Detaching and getting through each day is becoming easier. Be strong and continue the start of a new chapter in your life! Seems like many that have posted on your thread are dropping the rope and moving on or getting close to doing that.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
You all would not believe the day I had. I don't even believe the day I had. Recap from previously: I'm out of town till. H wanted the rest of his things before I'd get back in town. I told him he'd have to wait till I was back or I'd ship it to him, he is unhappy about this but I haven't heard from him in a week about it
I get a call this AM from the police in my town saying that a neighbor saw H crawling through the window into my house. They get there, he's inside. He apparently took a cab over to my house, and OW as going to meet him there with a truck to take whatever he felt like he was entitled to. He couldn't wait the 3 days until I got back to PA. So now he's sitting in jail, going to be charged with burglary.
It's mind blowing. Who is this person anymore?!
M:26 H:32 T:8yrs ILYBNILWY/ "I'm not happy": 2/6/16 D-Day-discovered PA/EA: 2/10/16 Separated: 2/14/16 He's living with OW I moved to different state: 06/16 Currently: Trying to move forward
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
Checking in with you Sparkls. All I can say is what a downward spiral your H is on and it sounds like OW is adding fuel to a fire burning out of control.
You did the right thing by telling him to wait. You will really need to let him hit rock bottom and it sounds like he is well on his way.
Not sure where you are on your feelings for H anymore, but if you are DBing still, think about how to approach this when you get home. What kind of a reaction would he expect from you? Can you show him a 180 a blow his mind? Be the calm, rationale one, since he is clearly not capable and show him the change in you.
I bet this ridiculous episode and your calm resolve is REALLY going to make him think..."What am I doing?!"
Me:33 H:34 T: 3yrs M: 2yrs H depression triggered and we are "unhealthy": 7/15 H wants to "make it work" 12/28 BD: 3/10/16
Yeah I'm letting him hit rock bottom but I'm feeling very done. There's always been the talk that when you drop the rope, you'll just know it. I feel like I'm there. I just had my offer on a house in Detroit accepted, I went out on a date with a totally sane non-felon and the changes H would have to make are just so much that I'm not going to wait. If he wants to try and win me back, that's his choice. It'll be hard for him but not impossible.
Im moving on into my new life and my new world, and he's sitting in his (jail). It took him 2 months after we broke up to commit two felonies. That's not someone I'm going to fight for anymore. I already have guys kicking my door down so to speak. I'm done trying to fix him or make excuses for him when he wouldn't do the same for me. And that's very liberating!
M:26 H:32 T:8yrs ILYBNILWY/ "I'm not happy": 2/6/16 D-Day-discovered PA/EA: 2/10/16 Separated: 2/14/16 He's living with OW I moved to different state: 06/16 Currently: Trying to move forward
