Is your IC a clinical psychologist? I would highly recommend one. They listen more and comment less. The comments become effective. These are people who have worked most of their career in mental health institutions. Just a mere suggestion.
Sleep deprecation.Practice mindfulness. Just be aware of your body and have your mind flow to Now.
Me: 43, W: 43 M: 16, T: 18 D - 7, D - 7 ILUB: 26 August 2014 Still living together
I do the same thing, Thornton. Sometimes I read and that lets me go back to sleep. Sometimes I check on here. That often takes away some of the anxiety, but then I don't get back to sleep.
I hope the IC helps you today. Is it cloudy where you are?
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
My GP prescribed me trazadone for my sleeplessness since BD. It's a really old antidepressant that apparently never worked very well for that purpose, but it turns out that it DID do good things for sleep. It's helped me a lot. Maybe something to talk to your doc about1.
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H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16
Sorry to hear about the trouble sleeping thornton. Are you doing enough to tire yourself out during the day? At the beginning I had a bit of trouble sleeping, like we all do I am sure. I would try to get out every bit of energy I had and it worked. Now, oddly enough, if I think about WW right before I sleep, which I typically do in some form, it puts me in a weird state of ease, hard to explain actually.
I'm sorry to see you back hear. I saw your thread and couldn't pass by without saying hi.
I remember you were so upbeat towards me when I sounded much like you do now. And that was even when you were NC with your WAW.
I hope you can get back to that point. I know the first few weeks are the hardest but right now she is showing you who she is right now. For your daughter and your own mental sanity you need to make yourself get out of the house and do something fun. Maybe something outside if the weather is nice.
I hate reading you being so down when it's not how I remember you here. You were so thoughtful and upbeat to others even when you weren't where you wanted to be in your sitch. I hope you can find that person again
I hope your day has been getting better. I was very down the first 2-3 months after the bomb dropped. Then, I started making goals for myself. I had to get out and do things otherwise I would sink into despair. We moved here a year ago and I didn't have very many close friends. So, I made myself join divorcecare on Mondays, started going to church again on Sundays, started a ladies golf group on Thursdays. I also am trying to get used to being alone without the kids because that is a real struggle. You were so helpful to me last night when I had a bad evening. So, I wanted to encourage you to get our and get moving. Hope your day is better!
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
Yes, I remember my late night chats with you. We were both struggling.
How are things with you and H? I hope you guys are doing great.
I'm starting to think that WAW just isn't the one for me. She's a "runner" and takes off anytime things get challenging. It's hard because she can be such a lovely, thoughtful, caring person too.
Thanks for stopping by TO! So good to hear from you!
