Right there with you Bud. I have 1 room in the house that is mine and feels good. My bedroom. It is warm, cozy, smells nice, safe, has the TV, had a dog bed now (Never used to allow the dog upstairs). silly I know but once I am away from the rest of the house and in my room it feels sort of safe. I think this is habit though as the last 7 months of being S in the same house I'd often just be in my room with my boys. Maybe this time alone, and the quiet we have is better for healing ? Just stay busy, focus your mind. Cook, clean, do normal stuff, have music or TV on helped me too. The now is not the forever..
me45,W43 S9,S5 T15yrs M10yrs BD 4/07/15 W wants D 4/07/15 W filed 8/05/15 D petition arrived 21/12/15 Merry xmas, W,S5 S9 moved out 5/2/16
I know your pain is still very fresh and it can certainly be unbearable, stupid valentines commercials dont help...what are your plans for the weekend? Whqt are you going to do to help get this crap off your mind...adventure, friends, treating yourself well, splurge????
What can you do to help yourself to start moving your feet towards having a nice time this weekend????
Honestly I'm still exhausted. I haven't been sleeping at all. I have a few support group meetings this weekend that I will attend and I might try to catch a movie. Other than that, I think it will be low key.
Honestly, I'm kind of an introvert so I don't have many close friends that live in the area. All of my good friends live in other states.
I'm really trying hard to not fall into depression. My WAW is very outgoing and has a huge support network. I've always been a family guy. My WAW was my best friend. Now that she's gone, I don't have much to fall back on.
Honestly, I'm kind of an introvert so I don't have many close friends that live in the area. All of my good friends live in other states.
I'm really trying hard to not fall into depression. My WAW is very outgoing and has a huge support network. I've always been a family guy. My WAW was my best friend. Now that she's gone, I don't have much to fall back on.
Oh good, since we are working on goals to make us the best we can be, you have identified a HUGE topic that you can start working on right away!
We need to rely on ourselves for fun, certainly however human interaction is what makes us human. Interpersonal relationships with someone other than you wife is a necessity for a full and sustainable lifestyle.
What can u do to start the new thorton who is ready to tackle new friendships...i dont mean run out and fet a new bestie, i just meab learn how to BE and do with other people????
I've been going to a few support groups and that has been helpful. I also plan to attend DivorceCare, that starts next Thursday. I'm hoping I'll be able to make some friends in the process.
TBH, I've felt like a zombie the past few weeks. I'm on auto-pilot. I think I'm still kind of in shock from everything that has happened. Getting out there and being active really hasn't been something I'm aching to do at the moment.
I cherish my down time because I'm so exhausted. 2-3 hours of sleep a night is killing me, and that's with a OTC sleep med.
Ive been on an SSRI for about 3 weeks now, hopefully it will start to kick in soon.
Hey Thornton. I'm doing sorta ok today. Wobble last night but sun is out and well I'm hanging in there. I can totally empathise with you. I have always appeared confident outgoing but am actually shy and always preferred family life to going out to parties drinking etc but recently I've been saying 'why not' instead of 'why'.
I've been out on a few occasions and it takes your centre of focus away from the main stream of hurt...I found it to be enough of a rest bite to make some difference in my attitude.
me45,W43 S9,S5 T15yrs M10yrs BD 4/07/15 W wants D 4/07/15 W filed 8/05/15 D petition arrived 21/12/15 Merry xmas, W,S5 S9 moved out 5/2/16
I worry about you. About your anxiety, lack of sleep, and struggles with depression. I'm sure you know that you're not the only one who responded to the BD with those emotions (hell, you might have even experienced it already the first time you were here). Do you need to re-evaluate your coping strategies?
Do you have any good friends you can talk to? I only told 1 friend what was happening with my wife, but once I started talking I felt so much better. Just having someone to release your thoughts to might free up some mental space and give you some respite from all this....
It's only a thought, and I might be overblowing your statements. It's just that you don't strike me as the type of person who would normally react to a crisis this way....
Be well, and stay strong
Me-38 W-38; T-15 M-12; S10 and S6 BD - July 2016; EA confirmed; confronted Aug 2015 EA dissolved 12/2016
Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option - Maya Angelou
I've struggled with depression my entire life. Some days are worse than others and sometimes I feel ok. I think my lack of sleep is really contributing to how Im feeling.
I'll be ok, I just need to keep moving one foot in front of the other.
