I bought several of the adult coloring books,but they just sit there. I just either never think about them, or don't feel like coloring. Either way, I've had them for months an only colored 1/2 of a picture. Guess they're not helping that way!
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
MB...what other hobbies/crafts/etc do you enjoy doing? Coloring is supposed to be good for anxiety because it's a rhythmic process like knitting... something repetitive that you can zone out and meditate to. But I'm sure there are plenty of other activities that could serve similar purposes. Anything that distracts and gives your mind a break from obsessive thoughts is good. Neuro research suggests that spending a little time each day engaging in an activity like coloring (or whatever) actually changes the way your amygdala processes emotions and decreases anxiety overall... So not only do you get the benefit of distraction while you're actually engaged in the activity, but it's beneficial for reducing anxiety in the long term as well. Goodness knows we can all use some of that.
I hate Saturday nights. I imagine them together and it just kills me. It hurts so bad. Actual physical pain. I've experienced the death of parents, childhood friends, cancer, job loss. Nothing comes close to this. I live with such panic and dread. What if the A doesnt fizzle? What if they are falling deeply in love? Why can't this just END???????
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
I agree with Thornton - most R's that start in this way, don't stay the course. Don't get too hung up on the timescale though. It may take considerably longer than six months for things to truly break down with the A. I wouldn't want you to be counting down the months and then being disappointed if the A continues.
I'm sorry that Saturday nights are tough. Your comments made me realise that most nights I don't even wonder what my H is up to - and I'm sure this will improve for you. Is there a nice plan that you could make for a Saturday night? Supper with your divorce group friends or similar?
Take care xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Thanks for the words of encouragement. I did have dinner with friends. It's afterwards. 9, 10, 11 p.m. And now, waking at 2 a.m. With awful anxiety. This is no way to live. But I'm counting on this stupid A to fail. Sooner or later and hopefully sooner. It's doomed, it has to be. There are so many reasons why it can't last. Please god.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
I'm finding this too NYGal. I do GAL activities but it's the rest of the time, and, as you say, waking up in the early hours. I keep having nightmares. We've just got to hang in there I suppose.
Hi inpain. I'm sorry you're up, too, but glad for the company. My night,ares happen awake, and I'm being dramatic. I have awful thoughts.
Today a DBer on Facebook said her kid asked her, " why do they say follow your dreams? What if your dreams are nightmares?" I thought that was so sad.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Thornton, are you in Thornton? I think that every time I see your name.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
