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Weekend recap, Friday S4 had a doctor appointment. I took him and we met XF there. She seemed to be in a decent mood and tried to start small talk. I resisted, not trying to be a jerk, but I honestly can't look at her right now without being angry...

After doc appt S4 and me went and got a Christmas tree and wreath for the house. Left him pick everything, and he ended up running around with some other kids while I paid and loaded everything up.

That night had a few people over to my house. My sister and her family. My parents and a few other friends. All the kids played into the night and had a great time .

Yesterday, XF picked up S4 and I went with my sister to "run into" her friend from work. Turned out her friend didn't show, she was waiting for a cable guy to hook up her tv and he didn't arrive until many hours after the scheduled time. No biggie. Had backup plans and got a lot of my Christmas shopping done and then went out to see a local band instead.

Feeling in a really weird spot today. It's the first time in a week or so I actually had time to slow down a little. I just don't have the motivation to do anything today (which isn't me at all). Maybe I'm just stretched thin and need to relax for the day? Maybe catching a cold that has been going around? Not real sure but I think it's a date with my couch for the remainder of the day.

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Up, nothing wrong with a down day. Just don't let it get you down emotionally. Relax, unwind, watch some football, etc. You're doing great!


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Football is on! Just can't find a good game to watch haha. All that are on are like watching paint dry


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Hi uphill,
Been following your sitch- you seem to be doing very well! The energy you are putting into your s and your gal activities is great. Take this day and rest up- you deserve it!


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Feyth, thanks for stopping in! I do as much as I can, especially on the S4 front. There was a time I wasn't as hands on and was putting all my efforts into XF... Even though I don't feel whole, I do feel like a great father! And that to me means more than anything.


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Well, my day of relaxing must come to an end. Time for bed haha. I did accomplish a few things in between games and on commercial breaks. I felt like I had to to something?!? Got a load of laundry done, hit the start button on the dishwasher, swept off the front porch and got some gas in my truck. Ha, so I guess I got about 20 minutes of stuff done over the past 12 hours... Oh well, it was nice to have nowhere to be or anything to do for a change.


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My mind is in the wrong places today. Spinning a bit around all the unanswered questions... Why... How is this better? Who is it really better for? Wtf? Gotta get my head out of the gutter, it doesn't belong there.


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Ugghhhh, got home from work excited to go get S4. Got a swift kick in the beans as soon as I got there, child support papers served. It's funny that XF left out all the important things, such as the fact that I already pay everything for S4... I knew this was coming it just [censored] to have them handed to you. Now I have to figure out how to get 6 months of pay stubs as well as a pile of other information before this hearing.

Oh and another thing, after all these years, she put my birthday down wrong?!?! Not only missed by 2 months, but she wrote in the wrong year too!!! Haha

Not gonna leave it ruin my night. S4 and I are decorating the Christmas tree. He isn't very into it but I told him we can't set up the train until it's done smile


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Got the Christmas tree done and S4's train set up! He was extra excited for that smile. I'm still feeling kinda dumpy like yesterday, I was getting through it and it seemed to be fading until I got those papers... It's like every time I think we have everything settled and get into a routine that works for everybody, a curveball is thrown at my head?

I mentioned that to XF last night. I said I thought we had everything worked out? I thought that a few times. And every time things seem to be working and going without a hitch, you poke me again. I asked her when it stops. Explained that I will not live my next 14 years in fear of the next "scheme" on her end. She obviously had no answers but I had to get it off my chest.


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Originally Posted By: Uphill
It's funny that XF left out all the important things, such as the fact that I already pay everything for S4.

But going forward, you shouldnt HAVE to pay for everything. In fact, it sounds like you may be paying less.

While its certainly a pain to go through, it's kind of nice having that legal definition of responsibility so you dont need to argue about little things going forward.

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