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Just wanting advice on how to stay detached. We've been separated 2 months and he gives me mixed messages but now he's not texting at all and introduced the ow to my son without consulting me.


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Stick to one thread so people can follow you easier.


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Tamjakr, this is your son, not his, correct? This is something you may want to set a boundary around. Something like; hey H it's not appropriate for you to involve my son in your relationship with OW, especially without my knowledge beforehand.

I guess I am confused about your situation. Is your son living with you? And this is your son, not H's? And you are living at a different location from H?

So why is your son seeing H at all?


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He is both of our son , he lives with me and goes to his dad's twice or once a week. I would like to say that to him but I don't want to call or text, no pursuit


T-20 yrs M- 7yrs
Me-46 XH- 44
S15, S21
1yr separation and divorce, my decision-07
1yr separation, my decision-2012
His PA started Aug 2016
I moved out Sept/16
He's been with OW ever since
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I moved out 2 months ago because he cheated. Even though we were divorced in 08 we've been back together since 09 I consider that cheating.


T-20 yrs M- 7yrs
Me-46 XH- 44
S15, S21
1yr separation and divorce, my decision-07
1yr separation, my decision-2012
His PA started Aug 2016
I moved out Sept/16
He's been with OW ever since

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