I ended up leaving my boys with their dad and driving 3 1/2 hrs to my sisters. Very out of character of me but with Thanksgiving and my birthday being Sat I felt like I needed a mental health break. My kids understood and they were ok with it. My X tried to give me a guilt trip cuz he's so "busy" this weekend. But I told him it'll be fine. He can figure it out.
T-20 yrs M- 7yrs Me-46 XH- 44 S15, S21 1yr separation and divorce, my decision-07 1yr separation, my decision-2012 His PA started Aug 2016 I moved out Sept/16 He's been with OW ever since
Tam, a 15 year old definitely does not need to be meeting ow. I think its probably worse to expose a teenager to an OW than a younger child, because he can figure out easily what is going on, and he's at a very confusing age to begin with.
T-20 yrs M- 7yrs Me-46 XH- 44 S15, S21 1yr separation and divorce, my decision-07 1yr separation, my decision-2012 His PA started Aug 2016 I moved out Sept/16 He's been with OW ever since
Yesterday I texted him and asked if he was willing to end things with ow and give us another chance and he said " not right now"! So once again I need to start in day 1 of going dark, LRT, etc. wish me luck I really need to be stronger than I have been!!
T-20 yrs M- 7yrs Me-46 XH- 44 S15, S21 1yr separation and divorce, my decision-07 1yr separation, my decision-2012 His PA started Aug 2016 I moved out Sept/16 He's been with OW ever since
Tam I know how hard and painful this is. You have to stop contacting him. Instead work out take care of yourself and look good always. Try to look happy always especially around the kids. Go out and have fun. It gets easier everyday. I havent heard from my ex in 3.5 years and I am still alive . He has to miss you. If you are always texting and contacting him he wont have a chance to miss you. Go get a new sexy dress and posted all over FB. Looking happy and wild. Do not return his calls or text. Do not give him money if u are the main bread winner. Go for child support..how old are you both?
Happy birthday
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
T-20 yrs M- 7yrs Me-46 XH- 44 S15, S21 1yr separation and divorce, my decision-07 1yr separation, my decision-2012 His PA started Aug 2016 I moved out Sept/16 He's been with OW ever since
He is keeping you as plan B with the "not yet" type comments. Don't be Plan B, detach and move forward without him. NC except for required things about the kids. Don't forget to GAL.
Me:49 W:45 M:19 T:22 EA confirmed and ended 8/2014 S:19,17 D:9,5
I talked to him last night. He said he ended it it with the ow and wants to make it work with us so I'm hopeful!
T-20 yrs M- 7yrs Me-46 XH- 44 S15, S21 1yr separation and divorce, my decision-07 1yr separation, my decision-2012 His PA started Aug 2016 I moved out Sept/16 He's been with OW ever since
Be careful. He may just be stringing you along so you don't drop the rope. Don't expect much. Talk is cheap. Watch his actions. What happens if he looks or finds OW2? Don't be a bridge between OWs or a plan B. All or nothing is where I would want to be.
Maybe, ask him to send OW a NC letter that you approve and send.
Me:49 W:45 M:19 T:22 EA confirmed and ended 8/2014 S:19,17 D:9,5
. He has to miss you. If you are always texting and contacting him he wont have a chance to miss you. Go get a new sexy dress and posted all over FB. Looking happy and wild. Do not return his calls or text. Do not give him money if u are the main bread winner. Go for child support..how old are you both?