Re: LBH w/ a WW trying to save my M (5)

[otw]

lol, at least you made me laugh with both of those comments.

[gs9]

I have a multiple recordings of WW being verbally abusive to D4 and another of her completely losing control in front of S14. If she keeps getting nastier I wondering if I play this card and threaten to fight for 100% custody.

[Wonka]

GS,

I am sorry that you are experiencing some turmoil in your sitch.

I have a multiple recordings of WW being verbally abusive to D4 and another of her completely losing control in front of S14. If she keeps getting nastier I wondering if I play this card and threaten to fight for 100% custody.

You would want to read Sherman's thread . It might help you get some perspective on your stich and be prepared when you meet with your own L.

[Cristy]

Hello Gs9,

Be very careful as you proceed. Speaking with your L will be helpful and you need to share all of the financial details. You mentioned that you were audited by the IRS & may owe some money. Is this something both you and your W would be responsible for? Also speak with your L regarding any "leverage" you may have.

I would also suggest that it is time to review your strategies. Are the lengthy texts in line with what you are trying to accomplish?

Divorce Busting coaches will give you the best guidance on how to get things moving in a more positive direction, especially for D4.

Regards,
Cristy

[gs9]

thank you Wonka. I'll follow up on Sherman's thread tonight.

I need to call to schedule with my DB coach. I've taken a couple weeks to watch current strategy. Made a little head way on Tuesday but then right back in the tank. She is so unpredictable. Her mood swings, emotions and anger change so quickly. Our MC said he believes she could be bi-polar. It's tough.
Either way. D is scheduled to finalized on Dec 18th and everyday I'm becoming more accepting of it. I almost don't want to fight for the M anymore

[gs9]

Well WW is pressing forward. I have a lot of time to think about and talk through this week. Who knows what she's thinking and no way I'm going to try to figure her out but her is what I think is going on.
1. She found out I said if we D there is no way I'm taking her back
2. She showed some affection and said she loves me expecting me to return it. I didn't. This along with her accusing me of messing around with other women, which I did not deny nor confirm leads her to believe I am seeing someone else.
3. She responds with her go to emotion which is anger. Retains a L and is really trying to stick it to me.

Conclusion- The mind of a WW.......Only God really knows

[gs9]

WW didn't come home again last night. The last couple days have been pretty tough. D4 threw up several times last night but seems to be better this morning. She has asked several times "Where's mommy, Why didn't she come home?" Kids are so aware of everything going on. Breaks my heart. I was pretty upset this morning but just giving it to God. He has already gone ahead of me. He knows if she refuses to get the help she needs and refuses to allow Him to heal her then I'm better off without her. "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord. Plans to prosper and not to harm. Plans for hope and a future."

[Zephyr]

G, give it to god. Fine.

But make sure you are documenting all of this. A childs mother shouldn't be out all night doing whateverthephuck she is doing.

Seriously, this needs to be documented for the hearing.

[gs9]

I have been. I document on a calendar every night whether D4 chooses to sleep with me or with her mom along with every night she doesn't come home. It's been frequent enough that it should have some weight.

She's still not home and I wouldn't be surprised if she doesn't come home again

[gs9]

WW did come home. D4 asked why she didn't come home. WW told her she had a sleepover with a friend.

WW put a big bouquet of roses on the dresser in her room so they could easily been seen from the hallway and she threw a card envelope with a man's handwriting on it in the trash can in the master bathroom. After her shower she changed in front of me again not making a big effort to cover herself as I read a book in bed. Seems like she's trying to get my attention again but she'll get nothing from me