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Azzork #2622276 11/07/15 05:06 AM
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But isn't harder to get back together once divorced?

Bobbyb #2622420 11/08/15 11:44 AM
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No. That depends on you and your changes. What was your reasoning to send explicit photos of your wife to people?


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MrBond #2622768 11/10/15 11:46 AM
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I have made many changes for the better. Been doing the 180. I just don't see how she will see or find out the changes in me.
We have no kids together and really no mutual friends. So there is little chance of interaction. And I know how you feel about sending letters saying I have changed.

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Originally Posted By: Bobbyb
I have made many changes for the better. Been doing the 180. I just don't see how she will see or find out the changes in me.


Because you are changing things to be a better you, your changes have nothing to do with her.

Eventually, she will become aware of your changes (short of her moving 1000 miles away), they ALWAYS become aware of your changes wink

Keep reading, and once you finish, read it again (GAL to keep busy).


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Only thing our paths don't seem to cross. No mutual friends. No kids. No reason to talk to her. (I guess short of asking how she is doing) I am keeping busy. Thanks for support and encouragement.

Bobbyb #2624412 11/17/15 08:03 AM
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You still haven't answered the question as to why you sent the pictures in the first place. THAT is the root of the distrust.


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MrBond #2625687 11/22/15 10:33 AM
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Haven't talked to my wife (ex?) in quite a while.
Haven't received final divorce decree.
At won't point if I don't hear from her in a text or a call would you suggest I call or text her. Or do I not?
I continue to make improvements in my life and am wishing she could see this.
I really don't want to ask her about the final decree.
I would rather talk to her about something else.
Just wait it out and hope to hear from her someday?
Or at some point should I take the initiative?
I'm sure these questions have been addressed at some point.
But it's always glad to hear suggestions again.

Bobbyb #2625861 11/23/15 11:33 AM
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Is there a reason why you won't answer the question? That's the main issue. You're just dancing around it. You must be afraid or ashamed of something. Silence isn't going to help your marriage though. You keep asking for help yet won't give us anything to help you with.


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Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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MrBond #2626205 11/24/15 01:01 PM
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Mr Bond
I don't know why you keep insisting on these things.
That part is between me and her. And we both know the answer.
The fact is I lied to her and broke her trust.
Do you continue to badger someone that had an affair on their spouse as to why they did it. The fact is they did.
So if you can not offer any constructive advise or understanding on things I would rather you not reply.
I appreciate information you have given. But I think I have said enough as to what I did.
Thanks

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And to the others..my ex did text me yesterday. To let me know the judge signed the papers.
I am losing health insurance in this divorce. I have insurance starting on December 1st. Is it too much for me to ask ex to wait until the 1st to cancel me on her insurance. Her plan now is to cancel it on Wednesday. She said that is pretty close to the 1st.

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