I hope it's ok that I started a new/different thread just for this topic. At least for those of us in the U.S. we are moving into full-out holiday season. (most probably know our Thanksgiving is in November) Halloween is coming, Tday, Christmas etc.
Please feel free to post your thougths, concerns and strategies to handle this time of the year. Or what you have done in the past.
I usually love it. This year I'm dreading so I'm trying to plan what I'm going to do, how I'm going to handle it.
I love to entertain and often host a lot or friends and family for Thanksgiving. This year is my turn. It will be the last year in my big house.Should I do it? Go out big? Or will it only make me depressed. Thoughts?
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
I think the holidays are going to very hard for me. We are currently separated and I don't know where things stand, so I think its going to be rough. I have no idea how to handle things. I am glad you made this thread because I sure could use some ideas and hope.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Evil, my DB coach recommended not avoiding thinking about it and have a plan. Acknowledge that it will be hard. There is no way around it. But being prepared may help.
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
ahh the holidays, I am not looking forward to this. I have asked w what she wanted to do and she typically responded, i dont know.
I am going to figure out the schedule then i think i am going to have to surround myself with family and be very busy so i can not dwell on things. I know it will have to be forced but i know better than being alone and having a pity party.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
OTW, you are right. I would like to bury my head until February but I know that is not healthy.
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
In the past the kids and us celebrated Christmas at my W side of the family house, we never did anything as a family in our own house, which I found weird. Now with me not going to the in laws anymore it leaves me out of the picture. Kids are not going to know at that point I think. I don't know why we cant just have Christmas morning in our house then W and kids can go to W family house for dinner?
I know there is going to be a push for me to keep everything the same as years past and go act like nothing has changed. If I don't I will be alone as I don't talk to my side of the family.
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016
vise, Do you have friends you could get together with? or maybe look into serving at a shelter or something similar.
I don't have children and my H's kids are grown so it's only been H and me Christmas morning. I have no idea what I'm going to do. I'm going to have to face up to it and have a plan>
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
That's a good idea about volunteering somewhere on Christmas. I hope that something is more concrete with he kids so I know that this charismas I might not have them but next Christmas I do???
Personally for me its not a really big deal, never celebrated Christmas as a kid, We only celebrated thanksgiving and new years. I am fine to treat it like any other day, My friends were my W friends and they have sided with her.
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
I know Halloween is minor holiday but H used to decorate our front porch with scary stuff and we'd hand out candy. This year I decided to spend the night with my mom. She's 79 and not in great health so she hasn't handed out candy in a few years. I think she is looking forward to it and it will give me a change of scenery.
How are you planning to handle the holiday's?
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
