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Huddy, mate. I cannot stress this enough.

You cannot sell your house without a L. And I don't mean a conveyancing L I mean a divorce L. If there is no interim agreement the house cannot be sold. This isn't something you can wait on now. Honestly mate. You REALLY cannot delay any longer or your W could take you to the cleaners and there isn't a darn thing you can do about it.


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Hope it is helpful.But it is necessary.Good for you.

When W asks where you were don't tell her. Just say you were organising some stuff for when the house sells. If she doesn't ask say nothing at all.

As for being homeless I would have thought that it is the sellers that dictate when house is handed over, nit just the buyers wanting it for such a date. Regardless without diminishing the importance of a roof over your head, a L can really help you make the best choices with real info.

Best of luck. Let us know how it goes.


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Mmmmm.....SD has come home from college as she's so upset about me looking at a new place. I guess W has told her. Consequences of W's actions are coming home to hurt other people now.


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Hi Mate

Some rental agents that operate out of the West of Edinburgh:

Murray & Currie
Professional Property Letting
CMC Residential
Neilsons Solicitors
Your Move (Edinburgh West)

What about the L? This is serious time now mate, skint or not.


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Explain to SD that you have to do what needs doing since house is sold.Do not use SD as communication tool with W. Only say what you need to say, without hoping SD communicates with and convinces W of anything.JJust my opinion.

Be sure SD understands and has not been mind zapped by another version of events.

Be the pillar for your family.Be the rock. Be the lighthouse.


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I know. I've now got my SD to console as well. I've been awake since 0220 so a bit jaded now, but will get around to it. I'm looking at a property in Tranent (that's where I'm going to view tonight). It's a bit out of town, but I get more for my money and the council tax is a hell of a lot cheaper. I've used City Lets today to get my viewings. Usual speak about 'lots of people being interested' etc. and trying to get me in to group bookings or paying a deposit up front before a viewing. I've seen one at South Gyle which is excellent, but the council tax is nearly £160 per month! I pay less than that now for a four bedroomed townhouse.

I can see this week being as $hitty as last at this rate.


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Roiste

Sorry, your response came through as I was replying to NDY.

No plans to get my SD to influence W. That's not my style. W has to see for herself what's going on. My SD is as bewildered by W's behaviour as I am.


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Lettingweb are another good company in Edinburgh. Try them as well. Trust me on this though trying to rent in Edinburgh is a pretty tough task.


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Yeah. That's why going a bit out of town make sense.


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Here are some other areas West of Edinburgh. Different distances and varying quality (don't touch Wester Hails).

Ardmillan
Baberton
Balerno
Balgreen
Barnton
Blackhall (Edinburgh)
Broomhouse (Edinburgh)
Cammo
Carrick Knowe
Chesser
Clermiston
Corstorphine
Cramond
Currie
Dalmahoy
Dalmeny
Dalry (Edinburgh)
Davidsons Mains
East Craigs
Fountainbridge
Gogar
Newbridge (Edinburgh)
Gorgie
Hermiston
Ingliston
Ratho
Ratho Station
Ravelston
Redhall
Roseburn
Saughton
Saughtonhall
Sighthill (Edinburgh)
Slateford
South Gyle
South Queensferry
Stenhouse
Juniper Green
Kingsknowe
Kirkliston
Longstone
Maybury
Murrayfield
Wester Coates
Wester Hailes
Gyle
Turnhouse
West Craigs (Edinburgh)


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M:14
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EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts)
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I returned 2015/05/02
She left 2015/06/10
OM still on the go.
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