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I had a couple dreams too. All I remember is that I was desperately trying to find something important, but never could. Gee, that doesn't seem like anything us LBSs are going through, does it? wink


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Asitis, maybe seeking a new coffee cup?

I am having trouble keeping busy today. Took my daughter shopping for back to school supplies, mopped the entire downstairs, took my son for a long walk. Now I am back here. This board is great support for me but also keeps me thinking about my R.



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Maybe. I've found I'm thinking about the R and come here more than the other way around. It also is an outlet so that I can remember what is important, vent rather than pop off to my W, and turn struggle into mutual support (rather than annoying my friends & family by always talking about my sitch).

I wish it were just coffee I were chasing. That is a lot easier to address. And, I still have a thing for the old brand of coffee.


Me: 50 W:43
S6, S3
M: 12 yrs. T: 17
M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14
S 5 Feb '15
D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry")
DB Coach May '15
Wants proceed on D Aug '15
Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
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Is it just me or is there a lot of coffe talk going on lately? Lol ...


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1st bomb 2008
2nd bomb 4/2015 same person
I fear those big words which make us so unhappy.
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And we have you to thank lonelee, don't we.


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S6, S3
M: 12 yrs. T: 17
M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14
S 5 Feb '15
D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry")
DB Coach May '15
Wants proceed on D Aug '15
Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
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Well I guess ill take the credit for it. smile


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I fear those big words which make us so unhappy.
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Can I have the frothy choco topping?

And Liam?

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Back again. I helped H install a new lighting fixture- really he did it all, I just handed him tools but I stayed with him the entire time and acted interested, and it wasn't all that much of an act. Then he suggested we go out for dinner and stop at the store to get the light bulbs we needed for the new fixture.

I quickly arranged for kids to go to friends houses and we went out. This is maybe the 3rd time since BD that H initiated a plan for us. It was nice, quiet, but pleasant. Strangely, he kept talking to the couple at the table next to us, they were polite but really not chatty, and he wasn't picking up on social cues. Wasn't "too" bad, but a little awkward. It was obvious (to me) that he was interrupting their conversation to keep pointing out the decor in the restaurant.

Since BD he seems to have lost the ability to pick up on social cues. Does that have something to do with depression or MLC? I have noticed this at parties, groups, even at MC, he just is not picking up on people's body language or verbal cues. I was attributing it to him drinking too much since BD, but he only had one glass of wine tonight and he doesn't drink before MC. I am NOT mentioning it to him.

It was a good day. A few moments of intense anxiety, made worse because I didn't have a lot going on today. I will be busier tomorrow, and all week actually, so that should help.



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Im hooked on mcdonalds iced coffee currently with light cream and sugar.. for real...
cant wait for fall for some hot coffee.. maybe with frothy choco topping for a treat..

that sounds yummy V.. yes you can and make yours a double..


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M 49
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2nd bomb 4/2015 same person
I fear those big words which make us so unhappy.
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Photoka,
I have no insight into the social awkwardness he is exibiting other than is he avoiding talking to you? Is he just trying to be social but its not working for him? I wouldnt mention it either why give him something else to complain to you about.

I can relate to the not being busy enough to keep mind occupied.. it can be a challenge for sure.

Nice that he is initiating a nite out with you.. maybe in time he will converse with you more instead of the neighbors. Wishing you luck for sure.


Married 1991
D 23 GD 3
D 21
S 20
M 49
S 48
1st bomb 2008
2nd bomb 4/2015 same person
I fear those big words which make us so unhappy.
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