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jjal #2601509 08/25/15 06:56 PM
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Originally Posted By: jjal
Just had 3rd DB coaching session. Surely helps. Signed up for 3 more.


What did the coach say?

Might help to journal for future use.


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The coach spoke about our progress which is none, and validation tips. Following the LRT, there have been no relationship talks, and to be honest, I am not sure I am in a right frame of mind to talk about it.

Then she pointed me to the DB Facebook page.

I feel better after talking about it all.


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Oddly enough, dropped my wedding band down into my recliner last night and cannot retrieve it. I'm currently tearing it apart. And I just keep wondering why! Haha!


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Originally Posted By: jjal
Then she pointed me to the DB Facebook page.

Here are some old posts if that helps.
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2321264#Post2321264


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Then she pointed me to the DB Facebook page.

Here are some old posts if that helps.
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2321264#Post2321264


Thanks, I'd read that thread when I first found the website, had another read. Just because.


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jjal #2601893 08/26/15 09:39 PM
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Took the day off from work today. Accomplished nothing except for a few naps.

It's difficult being in the house at times. Thankfully, a friend is meeting me for a 5 mile walk in an hour.


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It seems the sleep cycle is two decent nights of sleep, 6 hours, for every stinker, 3 hours last night.


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jjal #2602109 08/27/15 03:14 PM
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Mr. Sandman didn't visit last night and I got only 3 hours of sleep. Ugh. Had some vividly odd dreams. One was about leaving a place only to discover that most all of my stuff was left behind. I didn't realize until I'd already gotten down the road a bit, and frantically tried to make my way back before it was all tossed out. Perhaps this is in response to my wife's departure in which she took very little to go live in her new place.

Tomorrow is 8 weeks after BD. Still detaching and GAL. Detaching may be working too well, her usual once daily emails have slowed to 2-3 times a week. I try not to read into them very much, but when it is all I get, I do. Plus, in our 20 years of marriage, we were never big phone talkers, and that's not changed. We always did it in person, unless one of us was on business travel.

We last had dinner together August 2nd. Before that, it was once a week.

I'm trusting the DB process but, dangit, it scares me every single minute.


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Not much to report on today. Had another blah night of sleep, about 4.5 hours and then wide awake for the rest of the time. So, toss and turn for 3 hours before time to get ready for work. Today is the 8 week anniversary of BD.


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jjal #2602354 08/28/15 12:45 PM
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Hi jjal,

Hang in there... today is the 8 week mark for me as well, but I get zero contact, nada. We can get through this. I had trouble sleeping for a while. I exercise hard and by the time I go to bed I am so tired, I fall asleep almost instantly. I have strange dreams too.... some nightmares that actually woke me up. I cannot remember the last time that happened. GAL my friend.

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