You sound good as you always do, especially with your never ending GAL plans.
I don't think too much can be read into the delay on your H's part - I know I can leave some important stuff for ages for all kinds of reasons. Having said that I expect sorting the gardener will give him a fairly hefty shove.
I don't think the curiosity ever goes away, like you say its whether it's still accompanied by anguish. For example my curiosity over whether and what my XW thinks of me still has anguish, my curiosity on what on earth she did all those nights she sat in her bedroom is pure bewildered curiosity.
Enjoy aqua aerobics.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
RD, you are right - it does all take a while. Jim, I love cocktails....I sampled a couple from the menu on Saturday night
So, I had an early start & on the road today. Day full of meetings. Popped in to see the parents on the way back (Dad's B'day.) Made it home and now having a glass of wine (with a slightly sore throat.)
I dropped H an email yesterday to let him know the gardener would go in this week. Just a brief email, but said thanks for what he has done to keep things going with the house and hoped this would be one less thing to worry about. He hasn't responded & I feel a bit aggrieved about that. But I guess I had some expectations (of a thank you) there. I'll just let it go.....but really - would a thank you have hurt so much? Ok, I'm letting it go.
When I arrived in the office today, attractive work guy (mentioned before) said he had been in my town recently (I live 1.5 hours away from work.) He and I had a little chat about how nice it is, his event and so on. He comes here from time to time apparently. Then he said - maybe I'll look you up next time I'm in the area? I said 'great!' and headed back to my desk.
It was all on a friendly basis and in earshot of people around. But now I feel a bit concerned about it. I don't mind meeting up on friend terms. But he's a recently D guy of a similar age to me, who knows my circs....I may need to let him know I'm not dating just now. But then, have I presumed that's what he's interested in??
Other than that, not much going on for me and no GAL tonight. Have a good evening all xx
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T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
You sound very upbeat, but I SO know what you are meaning about the whole not dating thing. It is hard to get back into that groove and for me, it just happened like a switch. I went from not being interested at all to being interested in a matter of seconds. It was interesting, for sure.
Keep on keeping on, Sotto! You are doing great.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
Hi RD, thanks for looking in on me. Yes, I'm fine thanks. Just a busy last couple of days at work. I'm off today and have already been to the vets with my 21 year old puss. All is well, but she just needs regular kidney checks & so on now. She's a nice old girl.
Dawn, yes I understand on the dating. One of the things I find tough is the scarring from what has happened. I feel as though I want to present any prospective partner with a huge list of Qs about their M/D/outlook on life and so on. I guess I have some more work to do here on my own insecurities.
I had a long email about finances from my L this week. I'll spend an hour on that today and get a response done. I just need to decide on how far we want to go with our due diligence as H's business interests are pretty complex, but it will cost money to look into them further. I'm leaning towards simple checks only and then let it go.
Other than that, all is well. I'm off to yoga tonight and then my sister is coming over for lunch tomorrow. All quiet from H. My spidey sense is still tingling a little there, but I'm letting that be for now. Have a good day all xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
