Sotto Voce

[Sotto]

Link to old thread
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2596894&page=10

H has filed for D now, and sent me a message yesterday to tell me. He's filed on grounds of unreasonable behaviour, but is anxious to assure me that what is written on the petition isn't how he feels. I don't really know where he's at with things and if OW1 or another OW is on the scene.

I've decided it's time to move to after LRT, and I've drafted an email response to him. I don't normally post drafts, but I'd welcome feedback before I send. I've also decided it's time for a new persona on the forum and have jumbled my original letters around to become Sotto..

Dear H, thanks for your kind email. It's a sad development, and I'm sorry you feel the need to take this step. I'm confused by your comments and actions, but I respect your choice and I love you enough to let you go. I hope you find the peace and happiness you seek, and I wish you well.

Yes, I think it will sting to receive the paperwork & see everything in black and white, but I appreciate the heads up. I guess wishing you Happy Anniversary is a bad idea then??! (just teasing ...:-)) Do take care, and thank you for the many good times we shared.

Toots x

[jim0987]

Hi Toots/sotto.

I have to say the change of persona intrigues me, as Toots is a persona that carries so much positivity but I'm not going to disagree.


As for the draft, well I'm no Wonka but I'd say something slightly different


Dear H, thanks for your kind email. I appreciate the heads up.

I guess wishing you Happy Anniversary is a bad idea then??! (just teasing ...:-))

I'm sorry you feel the need to take this step, but I love you enough to respect your choice and let you go.

thank you for the many good times we shared and I wish you well for the future.

Take care

[rd500]

Hi Toots / Sotto. Not sure about the name change either but who am I. !!!!!!

My pennies worth re email


Thanks for the heads up. You doppy bast@rd !!! You throwing away the chance of a great M for a pipe dream that's never going to happen

I will be great but you will end up a sad , lonely , bitter old man !!!!

Sotto. I'm not sure if I'm any good at these emails but just my thoughts

I hope your doing good today. Rd. xxxx

[Sotto]

Thanks for your help Jim. I've tweaked again....only slightly....and replied to H.

I'm doing pretty well today. I really appreciated my mini-date with RD last night. TBH, I felt so raw last night and this morning. On one level, I know this needs to happen and I may have needed to file anyway. On another, it's just.....painful, you know?

You're not sure about Sotto??? Let me tell you, that she is positive personified!! In truth, I have been meaning to change for a while - only because there is an association between Toots and me. It is best to leave her behind now as we are on to a new thread and a new phase.

I'm having a quiet day today. I was still tearful this morning and I have pottered about. It's a day off for me and I'm glad this news came at a time I have some space and no pressure. I'm about to head out shopping, and I'm helping out at Mum & Dad's later. WFH tomorrow and then Llama trek. Then bookstore Friday and meal out with a friend that evening. Thanks for being there for me in my hour of need xx

[CaliGuy]

I was not awake enough ... logged on and thought I missed a few years or something!!

Sorry about this turn Toots/Sotto ... out of your hands though right? Its all on him and like I said ... he is just not together .. maybe this will help him get through to another tunnel.

[Sotto]

Thanks RD.....you may want to stick to the face to face stuff and avoid emailing!!

I was tempted by your version - but thought, heck I've come this far, I'll stick with JIm.

Thanks for the mini date last night - much appreciated.

Sotto xx

[jim0987]

I love the fact that 'llama trek' as GAL is just casually thrown in there like its a normal Wednesday thing.

[late30s]

Sotto. It has been a real treat to read your posts. To see who you are shine through. The person that shines through is AWESOME.

I'm sorry you're going through this, but you are impressive in how you handle it.

[Sotto]

Why thank you Jim! We should maybe have a forum competition - most unusual GAL. I'm looking forward to meeting my Llama tomorrow. We go on a trek and you get to groom your Llama - and then I think we get tea and cake. Should be nice - although the weather forecast isn't great.

Late - thank you so much. I'm pleased to give you a treat. Thanks for thinking I'm awesome and impressive. I truly don't feel that way much of the time. Perhaps just occasional bursts of awesomeness. Last night I cried alot - lost count of the tissues. And this morning I cried again. But what I do find is that my distress passes more quickly now and in 24 hours, I'm more steady again.

No happy anniversary wishes for Sotto today. Oh well. I had a better anniversary than last year anyway - even though my H did just file for D!

Thanks guys xx

[jim0987]

So I'm competing with Llama treking and falconry now? Right... unicycle jousting it is!!!

Glad to see you still manage to find the positives even with your anniversary.