Letting go, really hurts (Smothy 9)

[Smothy]

I have been responding to H's text and has spent about 1 Hr Chatting. Said he missed talking to me. Kept it light and we had a good conversation. Ended thisas soon as another text camee through and H said ' well you got other people to speak to'.

Was pleasant,. Feel less anxious and have spent very minimal time thinking of H today until he called.

[Smothy]

Said he missed me!!!!

Not sure how I should respond to that. More mixed messages from H.

[Huddy]

I don't know. That sounds a bit like reaching out. Is the D still on the table? What about OW1/2? Issues need resolving first, but, I don't see too much harm in being a bit vague.

[Pyrite]

hey Smoth, after 4AM here. Beat with not sleeping crap. congrats on landing. Buddy's post sums it up!!!!! where is the 180 you promised! every post sounds the same, how am i gonna save this M? 180 for you god dammit!!!! R can come as it will. you're open to it, not waiting. you are more than waiting right now - you are hanging on every sentence. 2*4!!!! Move forward!!!!

[Pyrite]

don't respond. you've entertained him long enough. he is free to pursue you.

[Huddy]

Py's right. He has to do the work. You've let him know your feelings, he has to want it to.

[Wonka]

Yes, yep to Py and Huddy's comments. Let H come to you.

[Smothy]

H text goodnight x x then 3 hours later just another 'x'.

Text and asked me about apartment. DB coach said I should reciprocate. I am not texting him first, just responding to what he says.

[Pyrite]

Smoth,

the last few posts on my thread might be intersting for you. they are about deciding when to move on. In the long post by Asitis he basically summaries it.

-Py

[Huddy]

Well, you're coach probably knows more than me but surely he has to take the D off the table first?