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No, you don't do you. But you will be. Perfectly fine. I think it's because we're are out of the panic/fear stage. My WW is trying it right now as you seen on my thread. Meh. Bring it on girlfriend. She isn't an interest to me right now. Not interested in what she does or with who. Not my problem. As long as my son is well looked after that's all I'm interested in.

And I believe this is where the real fun starts. From what I've seen about here my journey is about to get a lot tougher. So what, I'm up for the challenge.


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Morning all

Back to weird stage, again. No mindreading but W has changed her purse and in to that she has placed a picture of us as a couple. W has also taken the business card off the fridge for her L (I think it was placed there to 'scare' me) and put it in her stuff for work. I know she had scheduled another appointment for next Friday, so I don't know what's going on. Don't care either as I'm not doing anything her L says.

At the moment W has gone to work, but she has spent most of this morning just staring out of the window.


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Week 19

Bit blue this morning. Had a nightmare last night about W. I think in my dreams, I am going through all the pain, whilst outwardly showing no problems as all.

I got up with kids this morning and W appeared an hour later. She looks amazing. I don't know if she's putting all this effort in to taunt me. In one of her rants, she said she didn't 'fancy me' anymore. So why make all the effort to look so good in front of me? Sunday morning used to be pj's until about 11/12 then jeans/loose top for W. Now she's wearing skinny jeans and tight tops.

In another of her rants, last weekend, she said 'why are you acting as if nothing is wrong?'. Well, what do you want me to do? Cry and snivel me way around every day? Shout and scream at her, as if she's the devil? The WAS mindset is quite, quite odd.

W got a few text messages yesterday afternoon. Don't know who from, but they were on 'what's app' (this I know because of the ringtone it makes) and I know the only people who communicate with her on that are her mum and her brother who lives in Dubai. She grunted a couple of times when receiving a text. Again, no snooping or mindreading, but something is a miss. L card is back on fridge.

So, off we go again for another week of fun on the escalator. The key is to survive and prosper.


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Why did she come down looking so good? If I were to hazard a guess I'd say she's mixing it up the same way you did. She still wants to be desirable. All women do. So you mix it up with shaving your beard she appears looking smoking. All part of the dance.


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Agreed, she wants to be desireable. In DB though, saying that W looks good would be pursuing. So, thinking it through, if I say she looks good, or look at her, she know I'm still pursuing and she'll continue to misbehave. By not saying anything, or looking over her, W will be unsure if I have 'moved on'.

I picked option 2, and have said virtually nothing to her all day. In fact, since I took the beard off, W has stopped reading her books etc. and has spent more time in the room with me. Maybe, just maybe, she's having a think.


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Can I make a suggestion mate? Send out a bat signal for Georgia Bulldog. He's kinda direct and I like the cut of his jib. He's on Defacto's thread a lot so perhaps start there? I think you may need to cut through the cr@p here and GB is the man for this. Ok, so you don't have an A to deal with but I think GB can help you.


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Huddy, good wishes with that. I don't know if it means anything. h to,d me today I look nice but I feel H is being nice to keep the peace.

Sorry to be so pessimistic, not feeling it at the moment.


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Hello Huddy,

Thanks for the post in my thread. I'll catch up on your sitch later today.

Bob


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Originally Posted By: Huddy
So, off we go again for another week of fun on the escalator. The key is to survive and prosper.
Huddy,

I caught up on your situation and I feel you are giving it your best. I'm not sure I would make too much of your W's recent behavior. You wrote the other day that she was "staring out the window." It's possible she is starting to realize the consquences of her actions but, for your own sake, no expectations!!

I liked NDY's suggestion. Send out a bat signal for Georgia Bulldog.

You're going to make it thru this, mate. We have your back.

Hang in there.

Bob


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OK, not sure what you can bring to the party but bat signal for Georgia Bulldog!

Today, W has asked if we can consolidate a credit card in to her name. Don't know why, but it will save interest. It just seems bizarre. When my W left her first H, she cut him off at the knees and that was it. He saw my SD every weekend, but that was it. She left him with the house to pay, everything. OK, he wasn't a very nice person, but when she walked, she went, never to return. I just don't see that. She came back from her parents; wants to talk about finance etc., it just doesn't make sense. Contact from her sister has dried up. It use to be hourly at the start, so again, I don't know what's going on.


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