Despite, feeling the urge, no snooping, day 1 success!
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
No, I think you did well. He's having a go at you, but he brought up the R. He's answering his own questions. All he needs to do now is join up the dots.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
you're a better man than I Gungadin! I'd have thrown in the towel by now I reckon. Possibly I would at least have cracked it and been the opposite of being available to him. Maybe you need to be somewhere in the middle. Not be available, but dont go so far as telling him to [censored] off when he tries to pull you in. Just busy yourself away, politely, but obviously.
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
Been out all day and got back from visiting friends, time 10.25pm, received text from H
I did not realise that the rules were we were allowed to just F&&£Ing disappear for the evening. Now I do. Thanks.
What is that about? How do I respond to this. He made it quite clear a D is what he wants!!!!
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
Been out all day and got back from visiting friends, time 10.25pm, received text from H
I did not realise that the rules were we were allowed to just F&&£Ing disappear for the evening. Now I do. Thanks.
What is that about? How do I respond to this. He made it quite clear a D is what he wants!!!!
Bwwwaah!!! H is mad as a hornet that you are living your life and wants to play the petulant boy card here. Ignore. Sheeesh....those WASes are a funny bunch for sure.
They want a D, but sure as hell don't want you "out there" having fun.
A few weeks ago he just got up at 7 in the morning and took himself and OW out for the day without a word.
Whatever I do seem to be wrong!
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
Been out all day and got back from visiting friends, time 10.25pm, received text from H
I did not realise that the rules were we were allowed to just F&&£Ing disappear for the evening. Now I do. Thanks.
What is that about? How do I respond to this. He made it quite clear a D is what he wants!!!!
Personally I wouldn't reply.
If you reply with a "I won't be talked to that way" you are engaging in an argument and proving your words false. I'd SHOW not TELL him you won't be talked to that way.
If he wants to talk about it I'd be prepared to tell him that his decisions and actions have changed the relationship. I'd keep it at that and just move on. If he rants about how he doesn't like it I would just validate and say "I don't like all of this either".
But yeah, replying to a snotty text, no thanks. Let him look you in the eye and complain about your 'betrayal'. Snort.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
Silence is golden. You know how stupid he is, we know it, he will never see it no matter what you say. He is using you to prove to himself that he was right all along and justified in D. Don't give him the retort he is looking for. Ignore it. Next. Too busy too engage in childish arguments.
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
Been out all day and got back from visiting friends, time 10.25pm, received text from H
I did not realise that the rules were we were allowed to just F&&£Ing disappear for the evening. Now I do. Thanks.
What is that about? How do I respond to this. He made it quite clear a D is what he wants!!!!
That is genius. He can do what he likes with OW but you have to check in with H if you want to go out?
Nah, ignore it. He's being childish.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
