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A new thread start of a new series, which I hope will be my recovery.

Old thread last post

Sitch summary last post last thread

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I was in an abusive R and this is my recovery story. Broadly (although threads 8 to 12 are a little of everything)

Threads 1 to 9, are the abusive sitch post charm breaker event (after knowing I was being abused)

Threads 10 to 19 are about DB, growth and breaking free.

Threads 20 onwards I want to be about recovery.

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I loved some of the other suggestions for the name of the thread, especially yours RD, and they are in the pot for thread 30!

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Great recap in previous thread. I think the focus on recovery is a good place for the threads also. It was already starting to be that anyway. Doing amazing V, absolutely a success story, keep it going smile


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Just read your last post, V. I have so, so many thoughts. In the meantime, hugs, and I promise I will post something soon. I like the focus on recovery, perhaps I will soon be ready to join you in full.


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Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH
D 9/15; NC forever on

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Hey V,

Just want you to know you are awesome.


Me: 30's W: 30's M: 12yrs
EA: Started 3/2015
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She moved out and served 6/2015
PA: Confirmed 10/5/2015
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Just wanted to pop in on your new thread. All about recovery...I LIKE that! You go, V! smile


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Amazing thread intention V. You are in the healing phase. Your situation has gone through so many levels of mayhem, all that is left is for you to begin the healing process.

I hope you continue to post about your increasing strength, serenity, and salvation from your XH.

This whole board thinks the world of you and wants nothing more than to see you healthy and well.

Big hug,

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You are so great V!! Doing such a wonderful job!! smile I am happy for you!! I am happy to be a part of your journey as well! By choosing to surround ourselves with good, positive and loyal people we become healthy inside!! smile


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All of my DB friends are so positive for me. My biggest recovery is going to be the Fins.

There are all sorts of hidden pitfalls now and several chickens coming home to roost. I am just about staying ahead of the work load.

A couple of difficult issues in my business to manage, whilst I was busy trying to sort my M I kept my eye off the ball and in my business you cant afford to do that. There have been a couple of major errors, one of which I resolved quite easily and the second of which will need some serious wellie.

One of my staff did a serious blunder on another client (which I resolved) there was no financial loss to the client but now they wont pay the bill. I guess its a soak it up issue, we will see. This particular clients spouse is uber poison but the client is ok but spouse rules the roost.

Another client needs an urgent settlement agreement doing. I have work coming out of my ears as backlog and no cash to pay for anything, my own bookkeeping is behind. Still I can but move forward, repair and recover.

Its going to be hard hard work, a real challenge for me. So I start early and work late. But I am not tired and exhausted as the treacle days. RD, yes some rest but not as much GAL.

Looking forward to this a little.

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Hard, hard work that will be worth it in the end!! Make sure you take some time for V!!! This is most important!! Fins can't get fixed if V gets down!! smile


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