I miss Matt, for sure. And no matter what happens henceforth for him, he can stand tall knowing he did all he could to save his marriage, and all he could to help the rest of us, too. A generous soul, he is.
Me: 46 Her: 41 M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18 3/26 W and I meet OW BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring W goes to stay with OW 6/26 NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16 I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19
A generous soul, indeed. Wow, I really miss Matt, too.
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Wow, I'm sorry I missed the fireworks so that I could add my sympathy. That is a really terrible blow to a noble endeavor (saving your marriage). I agree w/ Sandi2, that the intent her was to hurt you. You were not posting things publicly that would identify her to anyone, so you didn't cause any harm to her. That she snooped caused her harm, just as if you had snooped on her conversations with others about you (many of which probably got passed around the gossip mill to other people you know, unlike your comments on this forum), you would have heard her vent and say things that really hurt that she wouldn't say to your face (maybe).
You have helped a lot of people here, and I wanted to salute you for your efforts and insights. I hope you are able to save your M at some point if that is what you will still want. I do know that you are doing the hard work that will make you a great second husband for someone, if the other doesn't work out.
You will be in our thoughts and prayers.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
Without being too detailed, I'd like to give a brief update. The financial settlement was completed, and my W has proceeded with filing for D last week. While I still don't agree that it's the best way forward, I love her enough to not fight her decision.
More importantly, I'd like to update you on me. I'm doing.......surprisingly well. I've been going to game nights, enjoying my Pathfinder group, hanging out with friends, and doing all sorts of fun things with the girls. I'm continuing to work on being the person I want to be: I'm more confident, a better friend, and most importantly, a better father. While I still miss my wife, I'm grateful to have had this opportunity to better myself.
it is so good to hear from you. Sorry to hear about the filing, but happy to hear you are doing good and keeping up with focusing on you. We all miss you here.
BT
Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015
Awesome to hear an update Matt! I'm glad you are doing well!!!!
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
So good to hear from you Matt!! Even better to hear that you're thriving and doing well. Your spirit is still alive and well on this board and all of us who you helped through dark times still think of you and speak of you fondly.
Drop by from time to time and keep us updated on how you're doing please.
Big hug Matt,
PP
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
Matt, it is AMAZING to hear from you. As I hope you've read, we all miss you so much. Thank you for the update! You sound like you are moving forward with your life.
One step at a time and don't forget to grab some PMA!
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
