Rule 8 is about buying gifts etc. So, I guess getting the house in perfect order is a gift? Yeah, I see where you're coming from, but SD thought it would be a good idea. Again, thinking of the kids and how they don't want this train wreck, as SD has been getting 'sly' info, this maybe something that W has said I don't do.
Mind reading again!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Well if it's something you don't normally do and it's a source of resentment then go for it.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Even turning up 30 minutes after her is enough to have her think about it and has no affect on kids.
Plus if she doesn't let you know exactly when she'll be back are you to wait around?
If she is having second thoughts and the hair do is for your benefit, her knowing you are not just waiting around may be further food for thought. Sometimes you need to look to the big picture/goal.
Best of luck whatever you decide
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
NDY - she made a swipe comment about six weeks ago saying 'I didn't appreciate her and what I do at home' - all bullsh1t, but, if flowers in a vase and lemon smelling carpets show her that I do, and SD has said this is a good idea, then even if it tanks, it'll look and feel fresh for me.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Nothing of what they say and 50% of what they do...
I like roiste's idea of not being there when they return
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
I really did think about being out. I don't know what time W is coming back, so I don't really want to be out of the house all day. I've got stuff that I need to do for myself in the house. Ironically, I did have a GAL activity planned, but the mate I was going with has pulled out with illness. I'd go to the place on my own, but I have no private transport and there is no public transport (practical anyway) available.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Interestingly this could be part of the problem. My WW complained that I 'never did anything' . Having a dud hang around the place all the time isn't attractive. Just a thought.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
I was up before 8 to get my ironing done etc. I haven't heard from W and she hasn't arrived back yet, so I don't know if her plans have changed. I would call, but I feel that would be a mistake. So, I'm heading off for a bath to freshen up!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Go out for a pint or something. If I were you being out for a bit sounds like the best idea.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
