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DNTWNT #2591291 07/24/15 11:51 PM
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Originally Posted By: DNTWNT
i am bettering my self and taking this as a life lesson


Bettering yourself HOW?

Saying that you are better doesn't make you better.

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Getting help with counciling and trying to figure myself out and how to lose my jealousy issues and trust issues with people. I just need to focus on myself and my little one at this point. She's made it obvious she wants nothing to do with me

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Originally Posted By: DNTWNT
Getting help with counciling and trying to figure myself out and how to lose my jealousy issues and trust issues with people.

I'm sorry. I'm really not trying to be obtuse. But you can't just wake up one day and say "I don't have jealousy anymore". So what are you DOING. What actions are you taking to instill change in yourself?

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I just need to focus on myself and my little one at this point. She's made it obvious she wants nothing to do with me

Yep. But you have to be clear with what you are doing. Set goals. Check whether you're succeeding. You can't half ass it.

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I'm meeting with my councilor, learning to first be able to trust my self, and have closure with my past, the root of my problem is from a rough past I've had and I've never had any closure with that stuff, I've Carried this for years. I'm doing what I can and gathering information and advice as I go. I want to better me as a person. Although I believe I am a good person.

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Originally Posted By: DNTWNT
I'm meeting with my councilor, learning to first be able to trust my self, and have closure with my past, the root of my problem is from a rough past I've had and I've never had any closure with that stuff, I've Carried this for years. I'm doing what I can and gathering information and advice as I go. I want to better me as a person. Although I believe I am a good person.


I guess what I'm trying to say is that you can spend a ton of time understanding WHY you are jealous or you can put your energy into not BEING jealous.

For example, if you stop checking W's phone records, emails, facebook. Stop worrying about her movements, where she is, who she's with. If you stop doing things that cause jealousy, you'll stop being jealous.

Of course, easier said than done.

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Ya I see where you're coming from. I deleted my social media apps the day we separated and I am not trying to find out what she's doing. I know that will just make things worse. So I am not doing those things what so ever. So I think I've been pretty good with that so far

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So she came to pick up d, she acts like she's happy, and asks me how my day was etc. I just say good, and of course she asks for money which I'm sure is why she's trying to be nice. Feeling annoyed

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We'll talked to the the w today, totally went too many steps backwards. She wanted to talk about splitting all the bills etc. then I start to try and work things out again basically begging and pleading I am disappointed in myself I've been sticking to the detach but failed today I was doing good. Now at square one again. Feel like I'm chasing something that isn't there. She seems totally fine with all of this happy go lucky. I'm just confused. I don't wanna hurt anymore I wanna be with my girls again [censored]

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Ok time to pick yourself up dust yourself off and go back to DB plan.

We all have had setbacks.


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Learn from it and keep going forward.

You can do it.

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